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Subject: to all you guys out there i need some honest advice!!!

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**Jes :-)

Posts:154

07/21/2009 4:28 PM
one of my ''used to be friends'' is with a guy he lives in a different province so he doesn't get to see her very often, so he doesn't see much of her at all! she is a big two face to him!! he came to visit her awhile ago and the way she dressed and went to church is NOT what that girl is in real!!!life! i've been told to go tell the guy how it really is!! and he has said he really loved her and i think if the guy will find out what that girl is he'll feel like he got hit with a barrel of bricks!! he seems like a nice guy. end of story!;-P Now my question is how wood you like if someone told you what the girl was like? How is the best approach towards him?

David

Posts:499

07/21/2009 4:32 PM
Before I can answer, I need to know what exactly you mean. What exactly is she like when he's not around? What exactly is she like when he is around? I think you mean that when he's not around she dresses in a less than modest way and doesn't go to church , etc., and when he's around she changes those aspects. However, I'm not exactly sure this is what you meant as you didn't give too many specifics.

Aim at heaven and you will get earth thrown in. Aim at earth and you get neither. - C.S. Lewis

**Jes :-)

Posts:154

07/21/2009 4:57 PM
if he's not around ya she'll dress not so modest as what she wood if he was there, she even told me that she wanted to try and dress differently when he came to visit. and going to church is not an ordinary thing and for the guy i think it'd be a big priority!! and just all in all he doesn't no what a 2 face she is! i feel very sorry for him once him! and the music she listens to contradicts big time with that guy!

David

Posts:499

07/21/2009 7:01 PM
Does she flirt with other guys when he's not around? Does she do anything more than flirt with other guys? Also, do you currently have or have you ever had a crush on him?

Aim at heaven and you will get earth thrown in. Aim at earth and you get neither. - C.S. Lewis

**Jes :-)

Posts:154

07/21/2009 7:12 PM
we usually don't hang out together, i live at their house tho that's how i no her so well, but ya i no she txs alot with another guy or mabe even "guys" i'm not sure but i no one for sure!! no i've never had a crush on the guy at all.

David

Posts:499

07/21/2009 7:23 PM
Alright, if that's the case, all I can tell you is what I would want if I were that guy. I would definitely want you to tell me. However, you have to go about it properly. Try to stick to just descriptions of what you have seen. Try not to put too much of your own interpretation of events into what you tell him. Obviously, be kind about it. Tell him that since you are his friend and you care about him, you need to share with him some stuff that you have noticed. Also (if this is true) tell him that were it you, you would want someone to tell you. There is a risk here, though. If you tell him this, chances are he will get upset with her. If she ends up denying everything, she will probably get mad at you, and he might then be forced to choose between the two of you. It's a prickly situation, but if it were me, I'd still want to know. Hope this helps some.

Aim at heaven and you will get earth thrown in. Aim at earth and you get neither. - C.S. Lewis

Locke

Posts:223

07/21/2009 9:51 PM
I second David's advice. You don't want to look like you're stabbing the other girl in the back, or trying to make her look bad. I don't know how you'd feel about doing this, but perhaps talk to one of his close guy friends and then ask him to tell the guy in question? That might not be possible, though.

It is trifles that make the sum of life.

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