iLive_purpose
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| 01/10/2009 8:32 PM |
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Ok here is the deal. There is this girl that keeps texting me. Like every day at the same time....and when I say "every day" I mean EVERYDAY sunday-saturday. She has asked me things like "Do you like me" and is negative about almost everything. I don't have any feelings for her. I need to know a way to let her know I don't have any feelings for her without hurting her feelings or anything like. Any ideas?
~Luke
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artyprincess
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| 01/10/2009 9:44 PM |
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| Sounds like a tricky problem. Ok, if the girl was me, the best way to tell me that you don't feel the same way would probably be just come right out and say it. I may get upset initially, but I will get over it. But mind you, that's ME, not her. I really don't know if there is a way to tell her you don't feel the same way without her getting upset. If you do decide to come right out and say it, tell her in person. Don't tell her in a text. As for what to say........... I'm not sure. See what the others say! |
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Austin
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| 01/10/2009 11:09 PM |
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| wow... I had that situation before. Twice, actually. And they were both OBSESSIVE. Here's what I did..... I talked to them less. I would be very short of words. Some days I just ignored them. I slowly ignored them more and more, and they lost interest. I guess they saw that talking to me all the time had turned me off, and they stopped. I'm friends with one of them, while the other was so crazy and weird and clingy that I just don't talk to her anymore. I guess what I did was kind of mean, but it worked. Looking back on it though, I should have just gone and told them straight up how I felt. I think that's what you should do. |
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Austin
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| 01/10/2009 11:10 PM |
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| wow... I had that situation before. Twice, actually. And they were both OBSESSIVE. Here's what I did..... I talked to them less. I would be very short of words. Some days I just ignored them. I slowly ignored them more and more, and they lost interest. I guess they saw that talking to me all the time had turned me off, and they stopped. I'm friends with one of them, while the other was so crazy and weird and clingy that I just don't talk to her anymore. I guess what I did was kind of mean, but it worked. Looking back on it though, I should have just gone and told them straight up how I felt. I think that's what you should do. |
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God is HUGE, and he loves me. |
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Austin
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| 01/10/2009 11:10 PM |
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| wow... I had that situation before. Twice, actually. And they were both OBSESSIVE. Here's what I did..... I talked to them less. I would be very short of words. Some days I just ignored them. I slowly ignored them more and more, and they lost interest. I guess they saw that talking to me all the time had turned me off, and they stopped. I'm friends with one of them, while the other was so crazy and weird and clingy that I just don't talk to her anymore. I guess what I did was kind of mean, but it worked. Looking back on it though, I should have just gone and told them straight up how I felt. I think that's what you should do. |
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God is HUGE, and he loves me. |
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Austin
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| 01/10/2009 11:10 PM |
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| hahahaha sorry for the triple-post lol my bad. |
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God is HUGE, and he loves me. |
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iLive_purpose
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| 01/10/2009 11:42 PM |
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ok thankns for the advice!...lol the only prob with telling her in person is that I have only actually seen her in person like twice in the last 6 months and she never comes to youth church........but I totally agree with not telling her in a text. .....In response to austin, thats in what my friends say(guys) they say just to ignore her and she will lose interest. so ya that's is what I am going to be doing for a while maybe once a week I might text her back. Thanks for the input!
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JoJo
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| 01/11/2009 4:19 AM |
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yeah, probably the nicest way of doing it is actually ignoring her. having a guy tell me to my face that he doesnt like me, would probably cause me to dislike him alot. like snob him forever.
I take it better if we contact each other less and slowly lose interest. You could also maybe just say "Im not in a position right now where I feel like I want to pursue a relationship, and I'd love to be friends..." That's what I tell guys who I have like "NO" interest in... But yeah, one guy still isnt backing off and its getting real annoying... |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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Sandy
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| 01/11/2009 10:14 PM |
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| Just let her know that you'll rather be friends. It wouldn't be harsh depending on how you tell her. Don't ignore her all together. Just gradually talk to her less. |
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smartblonde77
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| 01/11/2009 10:36 PM |
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tell you what not to do..
don't tell her you have a girlfriend (if you don't) cuase girls WILL find out!!
But ya no text sometimes honesty is the best policy but that doen't mean it is EASY i know its hard trust me! |
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it's kinda crazy how time has a way of makein all these memories fade away so if theres only one thing you remember bout me remember that i loved you unconditionally! |
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Mirhanda
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| 01/20/2009 6:31 PM |
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| Well, if you want an opinion from the other side (yeah, I have problems with talking to people too much) , there really is no way to do it without making her upset. If she asks you again if you like her, then I would be straightforward, just tell her. One thing that will really make her upset is calling her stalkerish, it will work though. Someone told me that, and I guess I didn't realize I was acting like that, so after that I didn't talk to them anymore for almost a week. Now we only talk if he talks first. But really there is no way to tell her without hurting her feelings, its just not possible. |
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Adelynn
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| 02/01/2009 8:47 AM |
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| What about trying to tell a guy you're not interested? I need a nice way to get a guy to stop emailing/facebooking me a couple times a day trying to start up all these conversations- he's a close friends brother (though I don't see her much during the school year), and I'm not sure he's interested in me or not but we've never really been much more than acquaintances, and I'm more comfortable with that. I just want him to back off a bit =] Any suggestions? |
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What If His People Prayed? |
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Locke
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| 02/01/2009 2:18 PM |
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| Tell him he's overwhelming you with all the emailing/messaging, and that while you think he's a nice guy, you need some space to yourself. If he really is a nice guy, he'll honor your request. |
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Adelynn
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| 02/03/2009 4:22 PM |
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| okay, thanks Locke. I'm kind of building myself up to doing that... I feel really bad for some reason. Usually I'm really good at telling guys they need to back off... and it's not because "underneath it all I really do care for him" =] I guess I just don't want to make him feel bad or awkward or anything. |
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"... I will pour out my Spirit upon all people. Your sons and daughters will prophesy..." Acts 2.17
What If His People Prayed? |
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iLive_purpose
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| 02/14/2009 11:36 PM |
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| Thanks for all the help!....this girl in quite persistent... texts me between 3:00-3:05 pm almost everyday of the week. Its all good though. She hasn't texted me as often. |
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