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if uturnchic
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| 09/22/2010 4:24 PM |
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| Ok here is my problem.
A couple weeks ago, I was driving home from the lake with some of my friends. My friend "Alexis" was driving, and my brother and friend "Luke" were in the backseat. About half-way home, "Luke" started singing to me. I ignored it at first. Then he started running his hands up and down my arm. I told him to stop, but he wouldn't. He ran his fingers through my hair. When we got to his house to drop him off, I got out of the car and started walking. I couldnt be in the same car with him.
Later i found out that he did all of that because he was jealous that i like one of his friends instead of him. The other friend doesn't know that I like him, and I haven't told him what "Luke" did.
PS I told my parents about it too.
What should I do in this situation? anything is helpful. |
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We are His portion, and He is our prize; drawn to redemption by the grace in His eyes. If His grace is an ocean we're all sinking. Heaven meets earth like an unforseen kiss, and my heart it turns violently inside of my chest. I don't have time to maintain these regrets when I think about the way He loves us.
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Lucky Albatross
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| 09/22/2010 6:14 PM |
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I think the expression "Get lost!" sums it up quite nicely in his case. It's obvious you were uncomfortable and he didn't stop. That can be a very dangerous combination. Jealousy is one thing, sending unwanted advances is something completely different. So, my humble opinion anyway, no time of day for this guy.
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Grant I.
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| 09/22/2010 11:04 PM |
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What Lucky said. Also, stay away from this guy, and for SURE don't ever let yourself be alone in the same place with him. That takes alot of nerve for a guy to do that, and it's not cool. If you've got a phone number for him...I'm in a bad mood, and I'd love to chew some inappropriate butt! LOL If anything like that ever happens again, especially if you're alone, don't be afraid to get violent. A swift kick "way down south" will do quite nicely to suppress any sexual/lustful urges for at least 15 minutes. I've wished so bad that some girls I know would have just lit into some guy like a windmill in a tornado, and set the record straight. One thing I'm wondering is...why did your brother just sit there and let it happen? Is he older or younger than you? I would have chewed him out on the spot and told him to never touch my sister again.
You did the right thing by telling your parents. If anything happens again, make sure you tell them ASAP. They can talk to his parents, etc. Sorry to had to deal with that. Have a great night! |
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if uturnchic
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| 09/23/2010 3:36 PM |
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I am trying to keep my distance right now from him. My other friends really don't care, and they invite him to everything. I was at my brothers football game in the town he lives in, and they invited him. It makes it really hard to stay away. 
Sorry Grant, I don't have a phone number for him right now. He is like 6'6" and about 220, but I have had to stand up to him more than any other guy I know. If he ever does anything else to me, I'm not afraid to make sure he stops. I keep telling him to buzz off, but he doesn't take the hint.
My brother is younger than I am. After the whole thing happened, he told me that he though I overreacted, and I was stupid for walking away from the car.
So yeah. It was crazy, and I would appreciate it if you guys could pray that he would have a change of heart. |
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We are His portion, and He is our prize; drawn to redemption by the grace in His eyes. If His grace is an ocean we're all sinking. Heaven meets earth like an unforseen kiss, and my heart it turns violently inside of my chest. I don't have time to maintain these regrets when I think about the way He loves us.
-David Crowder Band |
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Grant I.
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| 09/25/2010 5:39 PM |
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| Good for you. Shame on your friends and brother. He sounds like a really big baby who thinks he's hot stuff, and that any girl should just fall in love with him because he's so awesome. I'll pray for a change of heart for him, and protection for you meanwhile. Wish you the best! |
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Mr. Cheese
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| 09/25/2010 5:43 PM |
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| what you should do is just not hang out with this guy; most guy's would be to nervous and if you told them stop they stop unless they know your playing |
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clare
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| 09/25/2010 11:33 PM |
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| Keep giving the cold shoulder and don't be afraid to just light into him and tell him to keep away from you and just tell him you DON'T like him and your dad (or some other scary male figure) will take care of him. That one works well on putting a man in his place. I've been in a somewhat similar situation, and sometimes ignoring gets really hard, but if you say anything nice or any extra smile at him it will make things worse. Yeah sometimes younger brothers think girls overreact...my "lil" bro is almost 18 and finally getting it in his head I'm not (always) overreacting. Don't hesitate to call someone up to 'take care of him' |
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JoJo
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| 09/26/2010 7:32 AM |
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if you have to go somewhere where he is gonna be... take pepper spray, and if you dont have that, take a can of deoderant... works just as well... that was my trick for walking alone through big cities 
but yes, maybe learn a bit of self defense stuff, and if he tries anything (pray he wont however...) dont be afraid to show him you're serious and he'd better leave you alone. Also tell your brother that you want to avoid the guy and to help you out if the "car" thing happens again. brothers get overprotective of their sisters, well I know mine does, and I actually go cry to him about stuff and get him to chase weirdo guys away |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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if uturnchic
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| 09/28/2010 3:37 PM |
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I am being very careful now. I am trying to stay away, but he's friends with all of my friends so they want him around, and it makes it hard.
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We are His portion, and He is our prize; drawn to redemption by the grace in His eyes. If His grace is an ocean we're all sinking. Heaven meets earth like an unforseen kiss, and my heart it turns violently inside of my chest. I don't have time to maintain these regrets when I think about the way He loves us.
-David Crowder Band |
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if uturnchic
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| 11/22/2010 7:03 PM |
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| I haven't seen him in a month or so, so I am dealing with it better. I just found out though that he has done this to a lot of other girls, and he has started texting a lot of girls including some of my really close friends and asking them for sexting pictures. Please pray for a change of heart for this guy. He is making a lot of the girls in my youth group nervous. |
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We are His portion, and He is our prize; drawn to redemption by the grace in His eyes. If His grace is an ocean we're all sinking. Heaven meets earth like an unforseen kiss, and my heart it turns violently inside of my chest. I don't have time to maintain these regrets when I think about the way He loves us.
-David Crowder Band |
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Adelynn
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| 11/22/2010 7:16 PM |
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| wow, I hope you and those girls have told some adults about that. Trust me, that isn't something you should have to deal with. If it were to get worse, you'd want the backing of some trusted adults to get rid of this guy, and it's better if they know from the start. |
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"Angel of Mercy, how did you find me? How did you pick me up again? Angel of Mercy, how did you move me, why am I on my feet again?" -One Republic |
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Nicole
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| 11/23/2010 12:31 AM |
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Yowzers. I am so sorry you had to go through that uturnchic. :/ That is most definitely something I would not tolerate from any guy. If you were my sister, you can bet he'd better behave himself. Otherwise he's getting his booty butted right out the door. You really don't have to put up with him, but I am happy to know that you're praying for him.  |
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cassie14
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| 11/23/2010 3:50 PM |
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| yea i agree with Grant and Lucky uh if i were you i know it scares you but if ya kick him or just bam smack him strait up n let him no you aint jokin id do it for ya! n your brother n friends my word if it woulda been my brother he woulda knocked him out n if you were my sister even tho im a girl i woulda knocked him out for ya too! thats crazy yea girly you watch your back round him n feel free to knock him out or hit him a good one n get your dad involved if he does somethin again n it helps your prayin for him too! hope that helped some |
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if uturnchic
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| 11/29/2010 2:15 PM |
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Thanks guys. I am dealing with it better, and if it happens again, I will kick his butt! I have really been praying for him.
Thank you guys so much for caring |
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We are His portion, and He is our prize; drawn to redemption by the grace in His eyes. If His grace is an ocean we're all sinking. Heaven meets earth like an unforseen kiss, and my heart it turns violently inside of my chest. I don't have time to maintain these regrets when I think about the way He loves us.
-David Crowder Band |
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