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RachelMK
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| 05/30/2010 1:43 PM |
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for seven months, and I am about to move. We'll be separated for a year. I love him, he loves me. He told me that he wants to get engaged when the year is over, and to me, he is everything I have ever wanted in a guy. I have been praying for someone like him, and I feel like God has blessed me with him. But I worry about being away. He has done some stuff in his past that he is not proud of. Recently, he has told me of these things and reptented to and asked the Lord for forgiveness. I have forgiven him, but before I knew what he had done in the past with a girl - which was coming close to having sex - he almost when that far with me. We cried about our mistake, asked the Lord for forgiveness, and strongly want to repair our damaged relationship. I really do love him, but because of what we have done and are ashamed of, and because of the upcoming separation, I have many worries and doubts....
People say we can make it work. He truly has changed his heart and life since our incident. We both want to restore a relationship that is pleasing to the Lord and fix our past mistakes. What should I do? Should I worry about the move...or should I trust God.
I wish we hadnt gone as far as we did, but we cant change the past. All we can do is move forward and never repeat it. But is it too late? |
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"The Lord blesses those who are patient and whose eyes are focused on Him." |
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clare
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| 05/30/2010 10:00 PM |
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No it's not too late  If you both will try to make it work, pray hard!!!and get help...there is hope! is there someone, pastor and wife you can go to and talk with? and while he is gone can both of you still try to get help? I know exactly how you feel...been there done all that. We got to close and it scared us and we cried...well...it didn't stop and we got into a physical relationship and couldn't get out...not till my brother and sister stepped in and helped. For me, the relationship had to end because when it got down to it..this guy and I didn't have the same religion.
It's going to be really really hard for both of you! Once you start...it takes a ton of effort to keep from doing it again. Try to fix things as much as you can before he leaves, but also view his leaving as a good thing, in a way it's removing temptation from both of you and might be what you both need to get a breath and grow stronger.
If you want to talk..feel free to email me! I wish I didn't...but I know exactly what you're going through and if anything I can just listen!! |
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clare
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| 05/30/2010 10:01 PM |
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| I thought you said he was moving..you are! oops :p |
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JoJo
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| 05/31/2010 8:36 PM |
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I think it can work too. but you are going to pray more and more, as absence can cause strain on a relationship.
One of my guy friends and I were having a "deep" discussion (And I strongly suggest you dont have deep discussions with guys you're not in a committed relationship with, as you might start getting emotionally involved as I did) but we were talking about how he'd been in quite a few past relationships and how he wanted to change, and only date someone cuz he wanted to marry them. and he actually did that, he is now engaged to his fiancee, and they are having their engagement party soon.
so guys do change. but you will need to rely on God a whole lot more. and be careful, cuz on teh off chance that something does happen, you will need to make the best decision for yourself. |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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nateynate
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| 06/04/2010 10:44 PM |
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| If you prayed and prayed and God brought this guy into your life, dont worry about YOU making it work. GOD will make it work. As for your past, its easier said than done but its one of those things you shouldnt dwell on or look back on. Just let it be done with, especially scince you both repented. Either way though, keep praying and wat God wants done, He will have it done |
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" Wake up oh my soul
wake up and praise the Lord
rise up you sleepy soul
rise up and praise the Lord"
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RachelMK
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| 06/05/2010 5:20 AM |
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Thank you all for all your help, you have truly inspired me to trust and follow Christ!
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