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BabyGurl
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| 05/04/2010 12:25 PM |
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I really want to gaive up on life because my (Ex Fiance) was cheating on me again.. I found out he was cheating on me the whole time though.. I really love him and so does our child we have together.. He wants me back but i don't know!! I'm tired of getting hurt by GUYS!! He wants to see his Daughter but i don't know about that!! SHOULD I LET HIM SEE HER?? HE could take her from me because she has his last name.. WHAT DO I DO?? I CAN'T GIVE UP GOT A BABY!!!!!!! |
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Bea
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| 05/04/2010 4:28 PM |
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Well, do you think, that if you got back together, he wouldn't cheat again? Can you be sure if he has done it before?
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Grant I.
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| 05/05/2010 12:33 AM |
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| From the little that I know of your situation, you need to kick his sorry, low-down good for nothin' caboose to the curb and put your foot on the pedal and don't look back. He's unfaithful to every girl he gets involved with, he was probably cheating on you when he got you pregnant, and he doesn't deserve you in his life to use and abuse. You don't want a guy like him around your daughter being a bad influence on her either, especially when she's older! She will need a good male role-model in her life, but it shouldn't be him. As for letting him see her, that depends on how exactly custody is defined. If I had a choice, I'd make sure he pays child support, and tell him to get lost, and start a new life. You've made a mistake already, and you've got a baby to show for it. Don't make another MUCH bigger one, and marry a man who is always cheating on you, and has no morals. Marriage is for life. Make sure the man you marry is someone who will take care of you, love you, cherish you, be a positive influence on your kids, and be there for you, and keep himself to you and only you as long as you both shall live. If you get stuck with a guy like him, then divorce him later, my Bible says you can't re-marry until he's dead. I know you feel very connected to him, especially since you've had sex, and you gave birth to his baby, but you can still move on. Good luck! I'm not trying to be judgmental, but I don't see a single reason that you should stay with this man. |
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Adelynn
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| 05/05/2010 7:53 AM |
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| I agree with Grant. You want what is best for your daughter? Then do what is hard but best for her. She deserves better than a man like that as a role model. It's your job to take care of her, now. |
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"Angel of Mercy, how did you find me? How did you pick me up again? Angel of Mercy, how did you move me, why am I on my feet again?" -One Republic |
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JoJo
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| 05/05/2010 6:34 PM |
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it's a very hard situation. and firstly, you know, God can forgive anything you've done. So don't worry about that aspect! 
and I agree with grant and adellyn. at this point, your biggest priority is making sure you can give your daughter the best life possible. and yes it hurts extremely to have to move on (recently I've had a real shock and have been made to move on, which has hurt, but it's a good thing.) but you and your daughter will be WAY better off!
My cousin was 18 ish when she got pregnant, and she was gonna marry the father, but then didn't... and we almost adopted the child to keep him in the family. but she kept him, and now, 11 years later, she has a new partner (not that I agree with living with someone, I think marriage is something people should do...) and he has 3 kids and they all get on well and look after each other. and my nephew has now got a positive male role model. (not to mention a new "brother" who's the same age.) haha.
but yeah, it's gonna be hard, so I suggest having people behind you to support you, like friends, family, church people you look up to and respect. someone to phone you and check up on you, to take you out for girl stuff, start a hobby etc, you know, stuff to help you enjoy life and to look forward to your daughter growing up!! Cuz that is so special!
I donno if you know about me much (ive made like hundreds of posts...) but in a few i've mentioned that my mother died when i was 14 (I'm 21 now) and, so I've basically gone through my teen years without a mum, and it's been really hard. I actually wish I had her to help me when I had to move on recently. but my point is, your daughter is gonna need a good mother who can be her rock (besides God haha, He's what's got me through everything!) and nothing can replace your mother.
i lost my train of thought lol. if i remember it I'll post again |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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nateynate
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| 05/08/2010 10:20 PM |
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| I agree with wat everyone said, youve gotta get out and not look back. Not gonna lie, Its gonna be tough for you and your daughter but its wat is for the best. |
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" Wake up oh my soul
wake up and praise the Lord
rise up you sleepy soul
rise up and praise the Lord"
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clare
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| 05/08/2010 11:53 PM |
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sometimes a girl will give up the respect and trust she deserves for feelings of security and feeling loved. in the end that will just ruin you and your baby. I know a few girls who are single moms. The one I'm thinking of is in a situation like yours. She kept her grounds tho and when he started cheating and being a jerk in general, she was firm and he pays child support, but her son may need a dad, but that man is no father figure for a child. So I guess I'll just second what everyone else has said.
Be strong girl!!! you deserve the best! and don't let anyone think you should ever settle for less. I know you love him, but he doesn't love you and that's the truth of it. |
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