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JoJo
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| 03/17/2010 4:40 AM |
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ok this is mainly just to hear what others say...
OK so I liked a guy recently, and I guess I still kinda like him, even though he's got himself a gf recently, and I guess thats why I'm trying not to 
but yeah anyways, I've been single my whole life and I've been praying alot about God bringing some awesome guy into my life. and I was like "God I want to get married so badly, so I guess if a guy shows interest that in godly and nice etc, even if it's not this guy that I'm trying not to like, I'll let you lead me"
haha sounds good, so far...
but yeah, a guy who I've know for ages started kinda being too interested too fast, and I was kinda like "AAAAHHHHHHH I'm so not up for this!!!!" and it completely freaked me out!!!
so I said to God "OK I guess I couldn't just try to go with it if a guy just happens to show interest and i kinda like him" (cuz I did think this guy was cute, but that was about it, and he's a nice guy and all, and wasn't being dodgy or disrespectful, he was quite a gentleman, but it freaked me out!!!)
anyways, I kinda realised that at this point in my life, I dont feel like I'd want to marry anyone else than this guy I'm trying not to like... and its annoying cuz when I've liked guys b4 and then it hasn't worked out, I've been hurt, but able to move on... and this time for some reason, despite my best attempts to move on, it isn't happening.
Granted, I'm perfectly fine being single atm, enjoying it actually so I won't be expecting a relationship to happen in a snap lol. (not that I dont want one and have my sad days, but you know)
AHEM this is long... haha what was I getting at??
i guess it would be, does anyone else react like this? or what? and idk what my other questions really are.
(btw, this guy im trying NOT to like, it's not like I have his picture in my room or txt him/im him constantly, I've actually kinda avoided him for his gf's sake... but w/e)
haha so yeah, comment, or whatever, cuz i donno what else to put down  |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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Adelynn
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| 03/17/2010 3:18 PM |
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| haha yes, I've felt that way. Actually, today I was thinking about marriage and how it's committing the rest of your life to someone, and I'm not sure why but it made me feel sick. I'm so not ready for that! I think it's awesome that you're really giving this over to God and trusting Him to bring the right guy at the right time! I know, personally, sometimes I get so caught up in wanting to feel in love that I forget about the rest of it, about how I'm so busy working and in school and just hanging with my friends that I couldn't handle also being married. |
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"Angel of Mercy, how did you find me? How did you pick me up again? Angel of Mercy, how did you move me, why am I on my feet again?" -One Republic |
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clare
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| 03/18/2010 3:58 PM |
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ugh we're in the same boat Jojo. I keep this guy in the back of my mind and don't allow myself to think about him. I never try to figure out if I really like him or not. I dated two guys and with both things went horrible and this guy friend of mine saved me and pulled me out of both relationships and has always supported me, let me yell at him, cry, be dumb and he never says a thing. I know he used to like me, that was years ago, and he dated a girl not to long ago. I'm not sure how he still thinks about her, or me. I feel like I have no right to ever think about a guy again, esp him. I know I'd probably destroy and ruin any relationship I ever get in. I have a knack for that.
So I'm trying to leave him and all that to God. I don't want to be the cause for another hurt. Just when it seems we'll just be good friends, he'll say something, or get me out of another bad situation, and I go "God why do you keep bringing him back!" I didn't like him that much a few years ago, but now that we're older he's turning into all my ideals of the dream man!lol When he left for mission work it almost blew me over. Him? Doing that? That's my kinda guy... He gets back in two weeks and I'm freaking out about it more that I should!
I'm rambling...!
I'm happy being single, for awhile. Last night I was driving home from town all alone and watching the sun set and it was very lonely! (I did just leave my sis and her bf who were very happy together.lol)
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JoJo
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| 03/18/2010 6:59 PM |
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Yeah I totally get that clare!
Thanks Adelynn!
Yeah it is hard to give it over to God, but I'm starting to realise that when I don't I stuff it up
the thing is with the guy I do like that we had these awesome talkes b4 he started dating this girl, and now cuz he's dating her, It's so akward talking to him, shes like a hawk that watches everything he does. idk, he had a gf when I first met him, and we could even talk then, but idk maybe it's cuz I sorta know his latest gf.... who knows
but in our talks he said some stuff like how he can't stand it when a great gal friend gets a bf and suddenly he can't talk to her.... and it's kinda exactly what's happening now but it's the guy with the gf, and the great gal friend (not that I'm great, just using the words I used b4) can't talk to him... sounds hypocritical...
and Id said how my stand was that I was only wanting to date the guy I was gonna marry... and he'd said how he'd been stupid and dated girls just because and not thinking and how now he realised how stupid it was, and according to my friend (who was the flatmate of his gf) he'd taken a stand with her to not kiss etc... but aparently that didn't work...
but my point is, even if they do not stay together, I donno (even though I do really really like him etc) if I could get past the fact that he said this stuff and then didn't do it... and that he knew where I stood, and still didn't get it... and I don't just wanna be another notch on his belt of "I've dated so and so"
did that make sense? |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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clare
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| 03/18/2010 9:07 PM |
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Why is it when the guy says "even if I'm dating someone else I still want to talk to you and be your friend" but doesn't, but when a girl says that, she will follow through with it! Usually her bf gets upset and she has to quit talking to the other guy...
I don't know why he has all those ideals and yet seems to go for the girl who doesn't have them instead of the girl who does. In this case, you! Some guys can't seem to stick to their standards alone. I girl will come by and sweep them off their feet and it's like in their head they're saying "I'll do if right with the next girl". I know that's happened to me with the last guy I dated. And the next guy, I AM gonna do it right!
idk, I guess if this guy does get out of his relationship with this other girl and started coming around to you more, and he saw how firm you are with your expectations, he will realize he needs to shape up if he wants you, or move on to another low girl! Not sure that made sense or was any help an any way!lol |
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JoJo
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| 03/19/2010 2:43 AM |
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yeah I donno why guys just can't get a clue (not trying to diss anyone, just expressing the frustration of girls lol) like they give this list like "my perfect girl is a...b...c...d..." and then his friends will be like (gal friends) "well, so and so is exactly all of those, but he's so clueless he doesn't realise..."
IDK guys, what do you think about when that kinda stuff happenes?? |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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nateynate
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| 03/20/2010 10:16 PM |
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its simple, guys are stupid haha  actually idk why some guys are like that im sure ive messed up before and so have others some guys just seem to do it less because they will actually think about what theyre doing and that all comes down to what the guy is like im not sure if that helps at all ha but thats all i got sorry |
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wake up and praise the Lord
rise up you sleepy soul
rise up and praise the Lord"
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JoJo
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| 03/22/2010 5:35 PM |
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yeah, there are exceptions to every rule
lol just when I think I've got guys sussed... they do something so random, that I'm right back at step one again lol. |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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Christina
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| 04/01/2010 4:37 PM |
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This sounds oh so familiar to me.
I'm kind of in the same boat.
Except with me I was in a relationship... He got super busy with his job and school and extra curriculars, so we went on a break, until he got his schedule under control. We went on the break on Valentine's Day. That was bad enough in itself. But I found out the week of spring break that he has another girlfriend. I wasn't under the impression that we were broken up. I was completely shattered.
But now I am better. Its been two weeks and I can now honestly say when I see him I just see him as a friend. He said he wanted to be friends when I confronted him about what happened. It took me a while to be able to get to where I could be friends with him, but I told him that I wasn't mad at him, I forgave him and told him I wanted to be friends, but that the ball was in his court. If he wants to be friends then he needs to intiate the friendship.
What frustrates me now is that since then he still doesn't even act like I exsist. We both go to the same college, we have the same major, are in one class together. So its just weird...
Because I do care about him, I want whats best for him and for him to be happy, no matter what that entails. And that has been part of my prayer every night.
Things have been happening that make me think that he is just lost right now. And I want to be there for him but its just frustrating. So I know exactly how you feel.
The only thing I can say is just trust that God's timing is perfect, because it is. And that it will happen when you are completely ready. And you significant other is also.
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JoJo
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| 04/04/2010 11:35 PM |
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Christina, lol. totally know what you're talking about!
but you are so right about the whole "when we're both ready, God will make or let stuff happen" if that makes sense lol
I mean as much as I do long for a husband (future thinking)
I dont wanna just date someone for the sake of it or to date someone who isn't wanting to get married or thinking long term.
hmmm. I donno what else to really say. Why dont we turn this discussion into a topic about idk whatever we wanna talk about along these lines?? idk hehe |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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artist_for_christ
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| 04/06/2010 2:44 PM |
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I recently have been thinking about this too, especially since my close friend has been dating for almost 3 years now and another friend from church is getting married in October. The problem with my church (which I absolutely love, don't get me wrong) is that unfortunately, it doesn't help boys become men and allows guys to stay in this stage where it's ok to be 20 and playing video games all day, and it's ok to drop out of school because it was too hard. Because my mom had my little brother and sister when I was 10 and 12, my younger sister and I started to take on more responsibilities and our parents taught us how to become a mature young woman and what to look for in a guy.
The thing is that there are no guys who have grown up in our church who match up to our standards of being a mature, responsible, loving, caring man who loves God with all his heart and grows in God every day who would be able to take care of me and eventually a family. One guy who my sister (she's 2 years younger then me) dated seemed to be this kind of guy but turns out, had his eyes set at a different level then my sister and lets just say let the world's view of relationships guide him and my sister had to end the relationship because of it.
A few of my friends went to Christian school for college. We have an inside joke about how girls go to Christian school to get their MRS degree but this joke is actually kind of true in the fact that those friends who were single when they started there, are now dating a Godly man who truely cares for them (and visaversa with my guys friends). |
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~Lauren~
But whatever gain I had, I counted as loss for the sake of Christ. Indeed, I count everything as loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord. For his sake I have suffered the loss of all things and count them as rubbish, in order that I may gain Christ
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artist_for_christ
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| 04/06/2010 2:47 PM |
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| As my family is starting a new church about 30-45 minutes east of us, I'm praying that God would rise up a generation of men who are strong men in the Lord who don't spend all day in their mother's basement playing videogames and who want to serve the Lord. |
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~Lauren~
But whatever gain I had, I counted as loss for the sake of Christ. Indeed, I count everything as loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord. For his sake I have suffered the loss of all things and count them as rubbish, in order that I may gain Christ
Philippians 3:7-8 |
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JoJo
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| 04/29/2010 10:07 PM |
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actually you're right lauren, i have a friend who just went to bible college to find a husband...
but yeah... we do need a new generation of Godly young men |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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Bea
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| 05/07/2010 3:57 AM |
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| You know, my whole short life ( I'm 19) I've been thinking about finding the One. You know, an awesome guy I could marry and be happy with. I guess, that's every girls dream. But I just realised sth. a couple months ago: You can only concentrate on one thing. If you concentrate on finding someone, your whole thoughts will be occupied. YOu won't grow as much in the Lord as you would, if you would just trust him. I think trusting HIM is sometimes the hards thing to do, but if we do that, he will bless us. I haven't had any boyfriend my whole life as well, but I see it as a blessing. I am not messed-up. I hate seeing that look in those faces, that have gone through a break up. You know, in order to stop thinking about marrying, I thought about the fact what my life would be like if I didn't marry. And you know what, it would still be so good. We never know, what Gods plan is, so we shouldn't pretend we're God. |
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Adelynn
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| 05/07/2010 7:42 AM |
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| That is an awesome perspective, Bea! Some people act like I can't really be a Christian or something unless my one dream is to be married, but if my focus in only on getting a guys attention, day dreaming and fantasizing, how is that Godly or any different from most other girls in the world? I think it's totally possible to want to be married some day but still be completely happy with being single right now. There are so many ways I can reach out to other people right now, single, that I wouldn't really even have time for if I had a family. Besides, if I can trust God with my soul, can't I also trust that He knows best for my marriage, and He can make water out of stones- I think He can get my future husband to me (if He has one for me) anywhere I could possibly go! |
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"Angel of Mercy, how did you find me? How did you pick me up again? Angel of Mercy, how did you move me, why am I on my feet again?" -One Republic |
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JoJo
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| 05/11/2010 12:16 AM |
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You are both right.
And just to tell the latest news... this guy has recently got engaged, while stringing me along...
So it's been hard, but i guess, him getting engaged has finalised it in my mind that it's not gonna happen, and I may as well get over it now and move on and be strong hehe
but yes. I've found recently, since this has happened, that I'm not so focussed on guys and getting married. i mean I still do wanna get married, but it's not necessary right now |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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