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Elaina
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| 02/28/2010 6:08 PM |
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This is more of a request for guys than a discussion or anything!
Guys, I don't know how many of you were aware of the new fad going around on facebook. Girls post their bra colors on their status in order to "promote breast cancer."
I believe this is wrong. The main reason why? Well.... YOU!! I am signed up to a blog titled "Lies Young Women Believe" , heard of it? Well, a lot of us over there believe this is wrong, but ,unfortunately, not all. Those of us who do see it as wrong have been trying to state our opinions on the subject, but I think that "hearing it from the horse's mouth" would make our arguments a lot more believable!
Here's what I'm asking you to do: Go to www.liesyoungwomenbelieve.com and click on "Blog" near the top of the home page. You will see a side bar that has different topic names on them ( "God" "the Liar" "Myself" etc.). Click on "Relationships" and scroll down to the post entitled "Can Colors Make Guys Stumble?". Click on that and read the post, decide whether you agree or not and then scroll (all the way down!) and read the different comments. Now, a lot of these comments are simply girls who are commenting on how much they agree with the post, and all lot of people have commented on this particular post (try 54 total comments!). So, I'll give you the names of those who think posting bra color is okay and then you can read what they have to say and answer their arguments based on what you believe. Really, as a guy, all you have to do is tell them how it affects you!
Then names you want to look for are: "Anonymous", "xangelx", "Lacy Bra" and "Michelle".
And - hey! We might as well discuss it on this handy dandy discussion forum! What do you guys have to say about all this?
Thanks, will look forward to hearing your input!!
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clare
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| 02/28/2010 6:18 PM |
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| How is saying what color you're wearing going to promote breast cancer?? I don't tell anyone what color of anything. (unless it's my best friend and I want to make sure my clothing isn't to thin) I think It's not such a good idea. It's like saying what kind of condom you're using to prevent STDs. Excuse the graphic and analogy, but it's true. keep some things to you're self! (um..not that I need or use any of those things..ahem) |
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sometimes He says yes. Sometimes He says no. Sometimes He says wait awhile....
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Elaina
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| 02/28/2010 6:24 PM |
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Yeah, one of the girls on the blog hit the nail on the head when she said: "This isn't promoting breast cancer awareness, just breast awareness."
That's exactly it! |
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AllieRay
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| 02/28/2010 6:32 PM |
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| Ok.. I'm not gonna go to the site, but I'd like you to answer the question on here. Why do you think this was wrong?? I agree that posting your bra color is not going to cure cancer, but the point was to raise awareness, and obviously, by your post, I can tell that you are aware of it. Now granted, over 90% of Americans are aware of breast cancer, but I think this was just a fun thing to do. Its the same thing as the 3-day walk coming up, or any walk or activity that trys to raise awareness. Its just a fun thing to do to raise awareness. I also think it is worng of you first, to advertise another website on here, and second to post the names of people that dont think it was wrong, like they did something illegal. I could be wrong, but I highly doubt they even authorized to put their usernames on another website. Also one more thing I wanted to add, I mean come on, its not like we were posting pics of us in our bras, most guys didnt even know what the heck we were talking about. Whatever thoughts men have about girls is not going to be egged on my the color of our bras. When men visualize a girl, it doesnt matter what color her bra is. And NOT posting the color isnt gonna stop them either. Like I said before, it was just a fun thing to do to raise awareness, just like any walk or other activity, and I dont see anything worng with it. |
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AllieRay
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| 02/28/2010 6:33 PM |
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| I also wanted to add that I come from a pretty conservative Christian family, and even my mom did it. And I have friends that are even more conservative than us and they did it. |
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clare
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| 02/28/2010 6:42 PM |
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| actually, they few guys I've dated have admitted, the color of you're bra is a turn on. black is a color most guys would call "hott" when they see or imagine a girl in that. |
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sometimes He says yes. Sometimes He says no. Sometimes He says wait awhile....
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Grant I.
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| 02/28/2010 7:48 PM |
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| Lalalalalalalalalalala!!! Do we hafta? |
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AllieRay
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| 03/01/2010 9:18 AM |
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| Ok Clare, I guess I didnt put it right.. What I'm trying to say is guys are going to visualize and think about that stuff whether we post the colors or not... Thats what I'm trying to say. |
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Why do we go with the flow
Or take an easier road?
Why are we playin' it safe?
Love came to show us the way
Love is a chance we should take
I'm movin' out of the way
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Lost get found by Britt Nicole |
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Adelynn
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| 03/01/2010 12:58 PM |
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| which is why we shouldn't purposely bring it to their attention. |
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"Angel of Mercy, how did you find me? How did you pick me up again? Angel of Mercy, how did you move me, why am I on my feet again?" -One Republic |
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clare
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| 03/01/2010 1:46 PM |
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| I'll give you a break Grant, you don't hafta!! |
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sometimes He says yes. Sometimes He says no. Sometimes He says wait awhile....
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AllieRay
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| 03/01/2010 2:16 PM |
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| OMG its not bringing it to their attention! Like I said, most guys didnt even know what we were talking about. I personally had abouut 6 or 7 of my guy friends ask me what the colors were. I didnt tell them, and I know a bunch of my friends had lots of fun keeping it from their guy friends. |
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Why do we go with the flow
Or take an easier road?
Why are we playin' it safe?
Love came to show us the way
Love is a chance we should take
I'm movin' out of the way
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Lost get found by Britt Nicole |
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Grant I.
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| 03/01/2010 8:30 PM |
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Thanks clare! Now that I don't have to...Um...much as I hate to admit it Allie, Clare and Adelynn are right. I gotta admit though, I did find it somewhat humorous, because it's not very often that people tell you what color their double-barreled slingshot is!
Yes, it is bringing it to our attention. Funny thing is, I had no idea they made THAT MANY different colors! Wow. I live a boring life. I, for one, after seeing this strange phenomenon did some searching and found out what it was, as did alot of other guys. It's not that hard to figure out, really. Yeah, you're right. Guys will always be guys and act like guys and think like guys. That's why we don't need any help "thinking like guys" if you know what I mean.
I never really thought about it before, but Clare's right about colors. The girl that I like posted BOTH colors. The first one was black, and I about blew a fuse. No, I've never seen her in(or out) of a bra, but a guy's imagination is a wonderful thing...when pointed in the right direction. All this to say, please be careful what you put into our heads, because it could be there a while. We're wired with C-4, and you have the remote detonator. Set it down carefully and back away slowly. |
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AllieRay
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| 03/01/2010 10:12 PM |
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| But your kinda proving my point! I mean we could have been talking about the color of our socks and guys minds would have wondered! Just in this case we were raising awareness for breast caner, a very real disease. So I want to ask the question, when women, or even men, talk about breast cancer does it cause your mind to "wander"? Because breast cancer is something that will be discussed for a very long time. It is a very real and VERY scary thing! My mom had a scare with it a while ago and it was one of the worst times of my entire life! And now I am getting off subject. The point is, like I pointed out in the "swimsuite modesty" forum, guys are going to think about that stuff whether we talk about it or not, and while us girls need to be sensetive, we cant halt our lives because of it. We could be talking about having a sleepover and a guy be "turned on". From what I understand it doesnt matter what we are talking about, but a guy can depict little things that we say and twist it around! I dont know, maybe I should just agree to disagree with you guys and shut up.. I really wish this forus hadnt come up in the first place. |
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Why do we go with the flow
Or take an easier road?
Why are we playin' it safe?
Love came to show us the way
Love is a chance we should take
I'm movin' out of the way
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Lost get found by Britt Nicole |
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clare
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| 03/01/2010 10:57 PM |
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whew getting heated here. For one, Grant that isn't the first time I heard that term about the slingshot from you! You're so terrible! haha and I think I can explain you're lack of knowledge on the vast amount of colors! Maybe you should just keep out of those sights, and she is into to posting the color of what you're wearing too??
Just in this case we were raising awareness for breast caner, a very real disease.
uuh, ya you're raising an awareness..to the guys. And what are we bringing to attention? Just the fact that people should realize there is such a thing as breast cancer? Should we also say what size of bra we wear? Maybe all the guys should say what color of hat they're wearing because my grandpa died of a brain tumor.
If guys are going to visualize no matter what, than what's the use of dressing modest! We should just go back the the Adam and Eve days. If no one wears clothes no one will know the difference.
what is telling the bra color you're wearing going to do? Motivate someone to donate money? What is the "appropriate" color? Pink? everyone is supposed to buy pink bras and then what ? Victoria's secret gets a boost??? |
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sometimes He says yes. Sometimes He says no. Sometimes He says wait awhile....
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Grant I.
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| 03/01/2010 11:40 PM |
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When I first saw the colors being posted, I had absolutely NO idea what it was referring to. It could have been a survey for what color vehicle you drive, what color your eyes were(until purple, pink, or orange started showing up. That's not natural.), what color you painted your nails, what color you think died diesel fuel is...I had no idea whatsoever. No, hearing someone talk about their new red steel roof, or their green tractor, or the color black does not make us think of "those." Knowing that a girl is wearing a black bra is a whole different scenario. Just like you wouldn't follow me into a men's restroom, because you really don't wanna see what's in there, I don't need to know what's in "your room" either.
In answer to your question, no, as a matter of fact, it doesn't. It's just another form of cancer, and that's it. I do think of my best friend's mom, who lost her life to it about 9-10 years ago.
In a way, I see your point. Yeah, guys will occasionally think about stuff like that, but I am trying not to. What I'm saying is that we've already got a fire burning that we really don't need, and may get us killed, so please don't throw a gallon of gas on it and turn it into a real problem! Nobody's asking you to halt your life and not talk about anything just so guys won't stumble. That'd just be ridiculous! Talk about your bra colors with your girlfriends all you want, but facebook is both genders, and even though simply posting a color doesn't say anything, people will know what it's about very quickly.
Clare, that's what my mom tells me. LOL Yeah, I think I know why too. Wait, what? No, she just made the typical post, just like everyone else, 'cept she posted both of her colors, as did several others. No, I didn't go looking for them. There were tons of them right in the status updates page for a while. Oh, and I wore a red/black hat with our company logo on it at work today. LOL! |
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Adelynn
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| 03/02/2010 8:43 AM |
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What benefit does it have on breast cancer awareness? My godmother died of it when she was thirty years old, and she left behind two very young children. My neighbor survived it. Other friends, other family members... and everyone has stories like that about it. How much more aware can people be?
Posting the color of your bra- something most people really shouldn't know, anyway- on a public website is not raising awareness (or anything else good for the fight against breast cancer) for what it's "supposed to," it is only raising awareness for your bra. |
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"Angel of Mercy, how did you find me? How did you pick me up again? Angel of Mercy, how did you move me, why am I on my feet again?" -One Republic |
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AllieRay
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| 03/02/2010 9:27 AM |
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| Like I said before, I am just going to agree to disagree because you arent changing my mind, and I'm not changing yours. |
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Why do we go with the flow
Or take an easier road?
Why are we playin' it safe?
Love came to show us the way
Love is a chance we should take
I'm movin' out of the way
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Lost get found by Britt Nicole |
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Grant I.
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| 03/02/2010 8:02 PM |
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 Like I always say, it's a free country! LOL We all still friends? Y'all can have a group hug, and I'll just bow out gracefully.  |
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Michaela
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| 03/02/2010 10:02 PM |
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 Thanks Grant, I'm a girl and I'm really proud that a guy would take a stand on such a...hmmm... initial subject. I wanna say that us girls really respect when you make a biblical desision and stick with it. Keep it up! We love you.
-Michaela
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nateynate
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| 03/02/2010 10:21 PM |
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| ummm... sorry Grant but im gonna agree with Allie. The only reason i see it as a problem is if the girl told you fae to face wat color bra she is wearing, then it would be easier to imagine. Online though, you have no idea who your talking to so its not really that bad of a thing, especially scince its for a good cause. |
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wake up and praise the Lord
rise up you sleepy soul
rise up and praise the Lord"
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