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Adelynn
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| 03/27/2010 9:38 AM |
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I was going through channels on the radio, and I heard something about "gawking at beautiful women," so I stopped for a minute to listen. The DJ was very adamant that women deserve to be respected as people, instead of treated as objects. But then he played this audio clip of an "experiment" of his- he'd had a young woman "dress up" and then taped him interrogating guys after they walked by. He'd confront them about how they were staring at the young lady's chest, and the three that I stuck around to listen to all said it was okay, their wives weren't there or they'd say she's a beautiful young woman and they're enjoying her.
So of course I was completely offended at first. But then I realized- this young woman was wearing immodest clothing and still expecting these guys to not think she was selling herself. Do you think either side is right? How do we change the mindset so that women can walk down the street (in modest- though not necessarily boring- clothing) without guys mentally undressing us? |
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clare
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| 03/27/2010 2:42 PM |
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I'm reading "every Young Man's Battle" and "Every Young Woman's Battle" and I don't think a girl can change what goes on in a guy's mind unless he is doing something about it himself!!
I was talking to a guy friend who is way older than I so he gives me advice from experience. I dress very modest and he said he'll be blunt. It doesn't do a thing. I wasn't to impressed. then he told me it's cuz you have to have the proper attitude to go with modesty. I guess I didn't really have the attitude...I know I have the tendancy to flirt quite a bit...so that was an eye opener!
I'm not sure where I was going with that...but I have found that if you read books that are meant for men...they're very very eye opening!! Like Wild at Heart..FYMO, etc |
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Grant I.
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| 03/27/2010 6:53 PM |
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Adelynn, that's really interesting that a radio station actually did something like that! As far as the girl taking the twins out on the street for show and tell, I am not gonna blame ANY guy for a quick glance at her, because I don't think there's a guy alive who won't notice that pretty quickly on a nice sunny spring day. However, a quick glance of surprise or "noticing" is alot different than an intentional, fantasizing stare. That's where the blame starts. What you're wanting is something that is going to take effort on both sides.
The guys have to make a conscious decision not to stare and fantasize, and I say conscious because the subconcious male mind goes straight where it shouldn't.
On the girls' side, I believe it is your job to make sure you aren't showing off "triggers" that especially send a guy's mind where it shouldn't go. I know lots of guys are different, but for me, showing a bunch of skin(shoulders, upper chest, back, etc.) really doesn't bother me, or make me want to stare any more than if it was covered, but any cleavage showing won't help anyone. An inch might as well be 5. Nuff said. Please don't.
On another note, Clare's right. The most prim and proper well-behaved Christian Daddy's girl and the local hooch can be wearing exactly the same thing and send off a completely different vibe about her and her body. Modesty doesn't stop at wearing longer skirts/shorts, higher cut tops, looser clothing, etc. You yourself need to be modest, not just your body. Make sense? Didn't think so. LOL
Oh, and do everyone worldwide a favor. If you see a guy staring at your body, yell at him, or smack him upside the head.  It'd embarass him pretty bad! haha! |
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**Jes :-)
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| 06/14/2010 9:58 PM |
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| next time he would pry think twice before he would stare!! lol! but by the way iwill not do that, but it was a good try tho grant!;-) |
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dc_88keys4christ
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| 01/31/2011 1:52 AM |
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| Well I do think it could be a bit disrespectful to wear a tank top to church (even if it were modest) but as far as jeans go, that is fine. I usually choose to dress up some, though |
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Beckah
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| 01/31/2011 9:23 AM |
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| i dont think i would even feel comfortable wearing a tank top to church.... |
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"Check yourself before you wreck yourself" |
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artist_for_christ
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| 01/31/2011 10:54 AM |
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I've seen some girls wear a tanktop but with a jacket, shrug, or an open blouse ontop. I personally don't do that just because I don't have the body for it.
As for jeans, I wear them almost all the time to church. You just have to do a dark wash jean with no holes, fraying, or fading that fit you right. I tend to dress them up by wearing a blouse and heals. |
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~Lauren~
But whatever gain I had, I counted as loss for the sake of Christ. Indeed, I count everything as loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord. For his sake I have suffered the loss of all things and count them as rubbish, in order that I may gain Christ
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Beckah
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| 01/31/2011 2:35 PM |
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| since i cant wear jeans, i wear a long jean skirt with fashion boots. i always dress up a cute top. |
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