JoJo
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| 01/22/2010 8:03 PM |
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LOL well, I dont fantisize about guys, just wonder if I could have possibly married them  only 3 guys I've ever thought about like that lol and they were my friends lol |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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KidLove
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| 01/22/2010 8:10 PM |
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| Haha Well like I said, I only think "What if?". Nothing inappropriate, I promise (: ~Kid Love |
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JoJo
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| 01/22/2010 8:25 PM |
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OK cool!  |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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Adelynn
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| 01/22/2010 9:00 PM |
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you're so right that you can only learn how to have healthy relationships by being in healthy relationships!
What is a healthy relationship?
I applaud you not going out with any girl you want- there are enough guys in the world that are like that ;-] But when you get into a dating relationship, what kind of relationship are you practicing- one based on feelings, or one based on a commitment that you're going to be together for a lifetime? Feelings fade; obviously you know this! Diving into a relationship, feeling that rush- after 60, 25, even 7 years of marriage... that excitement won't be there, not in the same way, that feeling of getting to know someone who makes you feel amazing. I mean, it must still be there, but not in the same way.
It's so easy to be able to just drop a relationship when we get bored. Trust me, I know what that's like. But I'm more prepared for divorce than for a lifetime marriage if I keep having relationships like that!
Does that make sense? |
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wjr1991
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| 01/22/2010 9:27 PM |
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Well, I agree with Jo, but she knows that because we've already talked the subject dead :-P
I have a similar problem too, multiple girls popping into my head... though I don't seem to suffer from "fast crushes". |
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JoJo
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| 01/22/2010 10:01 PM |
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LOL yeah Will and I have talked the topic dead
IDK I have LONG ones and really short ones... You'd know Will
but yeah I wouldn't drop a relationship just cuz I got bored... only if I was the only one making an effort... |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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JoJo
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| 01/22/2010 10:03 PM |
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I think the longer you're in a relationship, like a marriage (speaking from watching others) is that you love them more and more everyday, but you will always have things to learn about each other...
That never stops, and you shouldn't let things become so dull... you should both keep things vibrant |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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KidLove
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| 01/23/2010 2:05 AM |
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| @Adelynn - You have to have one based on both. Love fades if it isn't true. Like I said before, I don't enter into relationships for excitement. I'm looking for the long run. I'm not a child anymore. I don't get bored of a relationship. I'm very selective when it comes to who I date. Therefore, if I know it is someone I'd get bored of, I simply don't jump into that relationship. I take my time and get to know a girl first. ~Kid Love |
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Liz
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| 01/23/2010 10:36 AM |
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OK, Kidlove, i totally get you, and sorry if I sounded judgemental.
I don't think fantasizing is always lusting. It could be thinking about what you say the next time you see them or.....
An example...ok, I'm going to sound l REALLY dumb here: When I'm driving alone sometimes....I'll have imaginary conversations with people. Mostly guys...occasionally girls. :S (now i have a cool CD that is more interesting than imaginary converstions though) 
Yeah that's not a typical thing! I'm just a strange person here. Is this all making any sense? I stayed up late last night, i'm not quite in my right mind. my sincerest apologies. |
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A girl should be so lost in God that a guy has to go in Him in order to find her |
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Liz
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| 01/23/2010 10:38 AM |
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| Sorry Kidlove, that last post was replying to the one waaaaaaaay back there. I didn't even see the second page. Wow! You all have been busy typers! |
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A girl should be so lost in God that a guy has to go in Him in order to find her |
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SarahRG92
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| 01/23/2010 2:01 PM |
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| Liz -- I totally get what you're saying about the imatinary conversations! I do that ALL THE TIME! haha |
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clare
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| 01/23/2010 2:30 PM |
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KidLove mentioned going to sleep thinking "what if" I totally know what you mean! I go to sleep every night imagining conversations or circumstances...what if when that guy was talking to me and I answered nicely instead of snapping cuz I was in a bad mood..and if I had been nice what would he have said back.lol
I think when you start to feel bored in a relationship it's a major warning to take a look at motives. Sure there will be days when you think wow we are stuck in a rut...I'm not learning anything new about this person and what's next...but if you start to want some more excitement in the relationship that leads to trouble.
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KidLove
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| 01/24/2010 2:00 AM |
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| @Liz - Haha It's quite alright. So I'm not alone? Lol |
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KidLove
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| 01/24/2010 2:02 AM |
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| @Clare - Haha Well it's because I have an extremely active imagination. I'm very visual so I can picture the whole conversation and everything. But then sometimes I beat myself up because it's like "Dangit! Why didn't I say that??" Lol ~Kid Love |
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clare
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| 01/25/2010 11:44 PM |
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| ok that is funny!!!! |
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