confused
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| 12/13/2009 10:02 PM |
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| okay...so there's this girl i like and she likes me too (i'm 15) and i like her soo much and i want to tell her i love her, but i'm not sure how to say it or when....what do u think is a good age to tell some1 you love them and what should i do?? any advice is welcomed!!!! thanxs!! |
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Starlight
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| 12/13/2009 10:33 PM |
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| Well, its a bit of a hard Q. because it depends on alot of stuff. I often tell my girl--friends (friends that are girls, not girlfriends!) that I love them because I do. I think it'd be ok, so long as it wasn't anything homosexual or whatever. |
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confused
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| 12/13/2009 10:47 PM |
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| haha, sorry! forgot to put i'm a guy....it's def. not anything homosexual....i'm thinking i'm gonna wait till my b-day to tell her (which is like 4 months away) and i want it to be special...but im not sure what to do.... |
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AllieRay
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| 12/15/2009 1:59 PM |
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Ok.. here is my advice for what its worth lol. it definetly needs to be special. and do NOT do it in front of a bunch of people. that would just make it really awkward for you, her and all of the others. another thing that you might not really want to do at all, is talk to her dad first. i know my dad probaby wont let me go out with any guy that doesnt talk to him first. i dont know if her dad is involved in her life like that or anything, but that is just my situation. third, pray about it. please. God needs to be a huge part of EVERY relationship, whether it is a marrige or just a dating relationship  so that is my advise! how it works out for you! |
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Adelynn
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| 12/16/2009 9:21 AM |
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| You don't have to answer this on here, but what do you hope to get by telling her this? |
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"Angel of Mercy, how did you find me? How did you pick me up again? Angel of Mercy, how did you move me, why am I on my feet again?" -One Republic |
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SO1
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| 12/16/2009 1:00 PM |
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thanks for the advice AllieRay, i have been praying so much about this...right now i'm just putting my trust in God and letting Him show me where to go.... and Adelynn i dont expect on getting anything out of telling her i love her, i just want her to know that i love her and care for her  is that okay?? :/ |
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confused
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| 12/16/2009 1:03 PM |
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| whoopsie...i logged in as my friend....hopefully he wont get too mad....lol, dont tell me ur password!!!! lol, sorry steven |
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Liz
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| 12/17/2009 9:27 PM |
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whoopsie...i logged in as my friend....hopefully he wont get too mad....lol, dont tell me ur password!!!! lol, sorry steven
How does that work?
Are you showing her you love her? As a girl, i would be much more impressed if a guy showed me he loved me than if he said he did and didn't show it! Just a helpful tip.  |
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A girl should be so lost in God that a guy has to go in Him in order to find her |
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nateynate
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| 12/18/2009 6:14 AM |
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| Dude, if your gonna do it, its not a bad idea to think about it ahead of time. Maybe take her on a little date or something to do it. But when you get to saying it, its gonna be one of those things you just have to do and not be worrying about regrets at the time. Good luck though. |
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confused
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| 12/18/2009 11:57 AM |
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| haha, neslokid is like 1 of my best friends, he showed me the website and the book, lol, and he let me use his profile at 1st but i decided to start my own, lol, okay i def. show her that i love her/care for her, not sure if it's obvious though....and i've been thinking about it alot i cant wait to tell her, and thanks for the advice peoples!!! i'll try to make the moment as special as possible |
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artyprincess
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| 12/20/2009 9:04 PM |
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Make sure you're ready to back it up.
I'd personally wait a LOT longer, just because you're only 15, I am too - and I'm a girl, but I personally wouldn't want anyone proclaiming their love for me until I'm ready to date them - as in another 3 years time at least. Joshua Harris (author of I kissed Dating Goodbye) waited until he proposed to tell his wife that he loved her. If you're wanting to take the relationship slowly, wait to tell her you love her. But, it's your choice. That's just my 2 c.... |
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emilyjanelle
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| 12/21/2009 9:26 AM |
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Joshua Harris (author of I Kissed Dating Goodbye) waited until he proposed to tell his wife that he loved her.
really really really hard standard to stand by, but that's what I've chosen to do with my boyfriend. and OH MY GOSH, is it difficult (let alone the fact that he's halfway around the world I haven't seen him in almost 4 months and won't be for another year)! Jesus, help meee! every day I'm asking for help, I'm serious. it is SO hard, but I know it's gonna be SO worth it. two quotes that kinda explain myself better...
Nothing worth having comes without some kind of fight. - Bruce Cockburn
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AllieRay
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| 12/21/2009 1:43 PM |
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Joshua Harris (author of I Kissed Dating Goodbye) waited until he proposed to tell his wife that he loved her
Ok so i really hate that book.. i know it sounds awful but i do. my youth group did the study and the dude is so bent over that dating is from the devil and stuff like that. i mean yeahh sometimes dating is bad and i want to wait till i am ready, but he is so bent over it. i would strongly advise people not to read it. |
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Why do we go with the flow
Or take an easier road?
Why are we playin' it safe?
Love came to show us the way
Love is a chance we should take
I'm movin' out of the way
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Lost get found by Britt Nicole |
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smileybookworm
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| 12/23/2009 12:28 PM |
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| I'd wait a lot longer. I'm 15, and a girl. I wouldn't want a guy to tell me that he loves me unless we're going to get married. I actually know a girl that broke up with her boyfriend of 6 months I want to say, because he told her that he loved her. Just be careful and don't break up with her soon after because it will hurt her even more. |
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Liz
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| 12/23/2009 10:18 PM |
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Joshua Harris (author of I Kissed Dating Goodbye) waited until he proposed to tell his wife that he loved her
Ok so i really hate that book.. i know it sounds awful but i do. my youth group did the study and the dude is so bent over that dating is from the devil and stuff like that. i mean yeahh sometimes dating is bad and i want to wait till i am ready, but he is so bent over it. i would strongly advise people not to read it.
I don't think he was so against it.. just for doing it "the safe way". I got that book a few months ago and read it 3 times in one day. (i'm like a super-fast reader, obviously)
Yeah, I think I would definatly wait a while. Waiting til you're engaged is extreme- but worth it! |
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A girl should be so lost in God that a guy has to go in Him in order to find her |
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Adelynn
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| 12/24/2009 10:42 AM |
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| I also had a super hard time reading I Kissed Dating Goodbye, but I loved Boy Meets Girl by him |
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"Angel of Mercy, how did you find me? How did you pick me up again? Angel of Mercy, how did you move me, why am I on my feet again?" -One Republic |
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Liz
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| 12/27/2009 9:34 PM |
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I havn't read Boy Meets Girl yet. Is it good?
Have you read Before You Meet Prince Charming by Sarah Malley?
It is one of my favorites! I've read it so many times and I highly reccomend it! |
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A girl should be so lost in God that a guy has to go in Him in order to find her |
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wjr1991
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| 12/28/2009 11:48 AM |
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I Kissed Dating Goodbye is a very interesting book... I know Josh Harris at some point issued a statement, and I think it was in that book, that essentially said that IKDG was his hypothesis of how one should go about finding their future mate, because Josh Harris had come to the opinion that when it comes to modern dating, to quote Mr. Banks out of context, "In short, you have a ghastly mess." However, there are some people who take it as the 67th book of the Bible, and I take serious issue with them. It has some worthwhile critiques of modern dating, and so it definitely worth the read. (I think, though my memory may fail me, that he said that was the book's original intent... not to persuade the reader to courting, but to make them think about dating.)
I personally find it quite admirable the deal of respect Joshua Harris and Jeramy and Jerusha Clark have for each other.
Back to the original topic:
What artyprincess said. You're too young to be proclaiming your love for a girl... wait it out.
On top of that, and this has been a bitter pill for me to swallow, your love for a girl does not mean you're meant for each other. Until you both know where your lives are headed, emotional attachment is a very risky thing... and once you do know, it is very stupid to become emotionally attached if you are headed in different directions. So... be as cautious as a mouse in the middle of an open floor in a room with a dozen cats in it.
That is not to say that the "right time" is when you get married. The right time is the right time is the right time. I can just say with 99.999% certainty that before you're 17 is not the right time. That goes to about 95% before you're 18. Just remember what it is you're saying... most of the time people don't think of the ramifications of love.
In short: Think before you think before you speak.
(To my fellow sticklers: both "the right time" and "think before you" are intentional repeats.) |
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clare
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| 12/28/2009 9:42 PM |
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I like Boy Meets Girl and I'm not sure I want to read I Kissed Dating Goodbye. I don't want to be mean but he comes across as like this is the only right way and if you said I love you to someone you didn't marry you're a cheater. I get frustrated with him! He is so..sure!
I said I Love You to someone and didn't love him at all. Now I'm very slowly going into a relationship with a young man I've had strong feelings for for a long time. I know he's not going to say he loves me until he's sure it's the right time. And I struggle daily not to tell him how much I like him! I think the longer you wait the better it will be! Even though it's hard, I admire him so much for being strong enough to wait, and to wait in a lot of other areas! |
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Adelynn
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| 12/29/2009 8:22 PM |
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I think that he was young when he wrote I Kissed Dating Goodbye, maybe 18? Which is great, it's great for him that he made that commitment so young, but I agree that he seemed to be too sure that he was right and that his way was the right way. His presentation turned me off from reading the book. But I mostly skimmed Boy Meets Girl, and it made me really think about how I expect guys to treat me.
But I recommend When God Writes Your Love Story, by Eric and Leslie Ludy. I know it's not as popular, and I really have no idea why!! I've handed it out to my friends, and they've actually bought their own copies to share with their friends! It's such a great book! |
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"Angel of Mercy, how did you find me? How did you pick me up again? Angel of Mercy, how did you move me, why am I on my feet again?" -One Republic |
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