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JoJo
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| 04/29/2010 8:38 PM |
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this topic has many different tangents going, so I won't address them all lol.
I'm just gonna go back to what David was saying about how girls think personality is more than good looks and guys are sorta opposite...
well I dont think guys should completely stop trying to look good and only work on personality, but I think they should not be so completely focussed on physical, because in the end, you're not gonna be looking super hot (excuse me using that word) for your whole life, even the "hot" guy, when he's older, isn't gonna look so hot... (same goes for girls...)
but I mean honestly, I am attracted to good looking guys, but if his personality sucks, even if he's hot, I'm probably gonna completely ignore him. (idk if I said that b4)
as for girls, yeah we shouldn't stop developing a great personality, but we should make the effort to look pretty (ok so not caked on make up etc, but you know, decent makeup or w/e)
Us girls have gotta stop thinking that just cuz we have a great personality, guys should like us even if we look like the old hag from Snow White. (exaggerated example.) guys often (not all the time) are innitially attracted to a pretty face, but the personality often does get to them, but they won't often give you a second look unless you're at least a bit physically attracted to you.
so for instance, I know because I'm a cleft palate (for example) and some guys would be like "Well, she could just be a friend..." (Not saying I haven't had guys attracted to me...) I try not look my best with who I am, like ok, so my nose is a little skew, but I try to look pretty (and yes some jerk guys would be like "your nose is scew so I've written you off" but often they arent even worth your time.
Im not trying to up myself, but I try to do exercise everyday, so I keep fit, so I look "not flabby" even though I'm naturally skinny, but aparently that runs in the family... AHEM! and I do my hair and my make up and I smile alot etc... so the point is, do your best to look presentable, if you're a girl, and try not to seem like a jerk, because all you care about is looks and not personality, if you're a guy.
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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Adelynn
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| 05/18/2010 10:57 PM |
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| I agree about girls (who are worth your attention) wanting a good personality over a hott guy. But I have to be honest, I'm going to be more interested in the athletic guy than the non-athletic, and being athletic, he's going to have a decently toned body. Being outdoors and playing sports is what I enjoy, though, so it's kind of an outcome of that, not exactly a cause... I'm not into him because of his body, I'm into him for how he acts and his hobbies and all that. So, yeah =P |
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Becca
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| 05/20/2010 8:32 PM |
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| I find a guy attractive when he shows who he really is. Most of the time if he's trying to be funny I'll laugh even if i don't think it really is that funny. I like when guys are themselves even when they are dorks. To me a guy being a dork is him being himself. It's the best thing in the world when I see a guy trusts me enough to show who he really is. Yes being physically fit does help but i don't want the captin of the football team. I've found that the most special guys in my life haven't come in the most attractive package and that's perfectly fine with me because who wants a guy who can only talk about his muscles or his workout and nothing else. |
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Miana
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| 05/28/2010 1:33 AM |
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I haven't read all 8 pages, but I would say eyes  There's this oen guy I know, I've known him ALL my life, literally. I hadn't seen him in awhile and saw a picture on facebook, it was a close up and i just about hyperventilated! It was like his eyes were piercing my soul, so much emotion in them. A built body is great! But if the man God has for me isn't athletic or has a six pack, then I'm okay with that Also him being confident and taking a leadership role, nothing is more attractive than a man taking charge(the right way of course) in a chaotic enviroment. |
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Bubble
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| 08/05/2010 7:44 PM |
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Ok, I haven't read everything and I know this whole thing hasn't been commented on in a while but I wanted to give my 2 cents worth. lol
Yes I do believe that there has to be some physical attraction, but usually I'm attracted to guys who are nice, good with kids, or just polite things like that. I love it when a guy picks on me. True I am more into the athletic guy, but that is totally to taste because my friend prefers more of the "geekish" (if that's the right word) kind of guy.
But looks to me are second, if there's a hot guy but acts like a jerk, soon he wont seem hot at all, and if there is a guy who isn't the most attractive, if he's a good christian guy and all that, soon he will seem the most handsome guy out there.  |
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puregurl77
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| 11/01/2011 7:12 PM |
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I personally am attracted to guys for personality (and then looks). I often go for the nerdy ones...I don't know why (I guess, I like intellectual conversations..and chess  ) but yeah. For every girl, I think its probably different in certain ways. But every girl wants to feel loved and protected and feel like she measures up-like Abi_xD said. So yeah. |
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Rose
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| 11/01/2011 7:36 PM |
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Agreed. Also, as I've mentioned before on here, joyful, excited, active Christian guys are so extremely attractive to me (physically too!). I think that God has this sweet way of blessing his followers with bright eyes, hopeful faces, and an aura of joy and confidence that others (especially other believers) are able to see. As we strive to become more like Jesus Christ, we are renewed in knowledge in the image of our Creator. That's pretty cool stuff, if you ask me. (:
** Note to girls: Isn't that encouraging to know? Even if we are not considered "hot" or even "pretty" in the eyes of the average guy, oftentimes God enables Christian young men to see the light of Jesus in Christian girls. As we surrender our lives to Jesus, more and more of Him will be evident in us (and others can see that). |
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God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of POWER, of LOVE, and of SELF-DISCIPLINE. So do not be afraid to testify about our LORD.
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Cammie
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| 11/02/2011 1:34 PM |
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| What I like about men is mostly their personalities... I know several guys who aren't particularly funny, but i still like them as friends.What i look for in a guy is a good solid faith, willingness to speak openly about their beliefs, Caring, Loving, Willingness to WAIT for after marriage, And they have to be willing to do things with me that i want to do, even it they think it's really lame or stupid... Having a picnic on the beach and just talking for instance. |
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Nicole
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| 11/02/2011 5:22 PM |
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I guess it's been a LONG while since I've posted on this particular thread....
I can't remember if I actually mentioned what I find attractive in a guy, but in case my list changed:
I agree with you all- I find joyful, excited, active Christian guys very attractive If he is strong in his faith and walk with God, I find it very very attractive. That's what matters most to me in a guy. His personality matters too Funny, intelligent, witty, easygoing, caring, gentle, compassionate, merciful, chivalrous, health conscious, adventurous... All traits that I find attractive in a guy Though with any combination of these, I have to say Intelligent and compassionate make the top 2. Though chivalry comes really really close too. I like being able to converse about many subjects with my guy friends. I like simple too- he doesn't need to spend extravagant sums of money on everything, I like picnics, and just browsing through a bookstore It's his time he's putting into spending with me anyway. Physical attraction does matter to me, but personality/character matters the most to me. He could be the most attractive guy on planet earth, but if he's a jerk- forget it. I actually think the cute, yet shy and quiet guy who helps others behind the scenes is worth a lot more to pay attention to
And Rose, what you said in that little side note- I love what you said! It is encouraging, and I think it's so true. |
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A&L
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| 12/15/2011 1:02 AM |
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| personality 99%
as long as the guy is healthy (like not a skeleton or hectically overweight)
And as long as he's natural..like doesn't spend 45 minutes on his hair or think he's amazing...
If he's a Christian, I'll be drawn to him. Not 'attracted' in the 'like' sense, but generally I'll want to know him better...he'd be the kind of guy I'd love to have as a friend (cause I don't date) |
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JoJo
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| 02/01/2012 5:33 PM |
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LOL this topic again haha. it doesn't seem to die...
so to add to what I've written b4, idk if I mentioned it...
I dont NEED to have athletic... I like a guy who likes adventure... i guess that'd mean he's probably fit-ish, as you can't really climb a mountain w/o being fit...
anyways, I love personality more... like if he's good with kids... SCORE! if he loves his family, SCORE! haha. if he loves God SO SO MUCH... SCORE, if we have similar life callings SCORE (cuz if I marry a dude who wants to be a missionary to africa and I'm not called to that, there will be conflict there)
um... i do like accents... but it's not necessary... I like a guy who can challenge me to be my best, even if he doesn't know he's doing it... and like Levi said in a dif topic... if it's someone I could see myself spending the rest of my life with, and I'd be extremely happy, then SCORE! haha
idk if that helped... |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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IDLibrarian
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| 02/02/2012 3:31 AM |
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For myself, I only find a boy attractive if we're already friends or I like him. If I don't know/like the guy, I don't find him appealing.
That said, my Special Guy is absolutely dizzying to me, His hands, his hair, his voice, everything. My friends find that weird, because he's not exactly the culture's standard of male beauty, but I love him for his humor and kindness, and especially his devotion to God. Because of those aspects, I'm awfully partial to his outside, as well.
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JoJo
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| 02/06/2012 11:11 PM |
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| yeah, like I said, half the time, you find a guy attractive, and it's got nothing to do with his looks... don't I know that well... |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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