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James
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| 06/22/2009 2:10 AM |
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Yeah I would agree with Locke
If it's one of your best guys friends then yeah they want advice as well but I would mostly come to a girl for comforting. A few kind words and some sympathy can go a long way. |
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Adelynn
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| 06/22/2009 9:15 AM |
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| was there anything in FYWO that stood out to you guys as extremely true, or totally irrelevant? |
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"... I will pour out my Spirit upon all people. Your sons and daughters will prophesy..." Acts 2.17
What If His People Prayed? |
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Bekah
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| 06/22/2009 10:22 AM |
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A couple months ago one of my guy friends actually called me and wanted to talk about something he was going through at the time. (and it just so happened to be the guy I've liked for two years...eek! haha.) He talked for a while about what had been going on, and I just sort of listened, mainly cuz I didn't know what to say, and then eventually I gave him some advice and a Scripture verse that I'd found helpful for myself. and he thought it was really, really good advice and seemed really appreciative. I don't know what exactly would classify as "sympathy," besides saying stuff like, "that's too bad," or "i'm sorry," or "i know how that is." Cuz I mumbled all of that too. haha. He appreciated whatever I did say though. Too bad we've barely talked since...
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David
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| 06/22/2009 7:25 PM |
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"Guys, if you want to talk to one of us about what's upsetting you, what would you most like us to do? listen to you? give you advice? fix your world? that's one thing I'm unclear about."
I would like you to not reject me (or any other guy) for being "too emotional." |
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Aim at heaven and you will get earth thrown in. Aim at earth and you get neither.
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Bekah
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| 06/22/2009 8:58 PM |
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Okay, but would you rather us just listen to you, or would you like us to offer advice? or what?
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transient
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| 06/23/2009 2:50 AM |
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Posted By David on 06/22/2009 7:25 PM
"Guys, if you want to talk to one of us about what's upsetting you, what would you most like us to do? listen to you? give you advice? fix your world? that's one thing I'm unclear about."
I would like you to not reject me (or any other guy) for being "too emotional." Well, first of course first you'll want to make sure that there is a problem we talk about. If we say "i'm fine" or "nothings wrong" twice and especially if we sound annoyed whan we say it, either nothing's wrong or we don't want to talk about it. It's better not to try to push us to say somthing.
If we want to talk, then listening is always a good way to start. Empathy can do wonders. Wait for the guy to get done with his explanation, and then toss in some advice. If you say somthing and he starts to get annoyed for whatever reason (we can be real jerks sometimes and not even realizing it) back off on whatever you were saying (no matter how important) unless he asks you to continue. It's a good way to talk to anyone with a temper.
A liitle off topic, but could anyone tell me what this  emoticon is? I've never seen this one b4.
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Adelynn
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| 06/25/2009 2:14 PM |
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| I've been told that a guy won't ask a girl he likes for relationship advice, even though sometimes girls are hoping they are just trying to be tricky and pretend that it's about another girl. If that's true, then why do they seem to ask girls they like for advice about another relationship in movies and books? Is it only wishful thinking? |
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"Angel of Mercy, how did you find me? How did you pick me up again? Angel of Mercy, how did you move me, why am I on my feet again?" -One Republic |
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David
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| 06/25/2009 6:35 PM |
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| Adelynn, if I understand your question correctly I'll say this. Romantic movies and books are some of the most damagingly influential misleading romantic messages out there, particularly for girls. Don't let yourself be affected by them and certainly don't trust them. |
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Aim at heaven and you will get earth thrown in. Aim at earth and you get neither.
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Nicole
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| 06/25/2009 6:43 PM |
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Romantic movies and books are some of the most damagingly influential misleading romantic messages out there, particularly for girls. Don't let yourself be affected by them and certainly don't trust them.
I agree 100% with David. IMO, the best place to get "romantic messages" is from your Father in Heaven. (Has anyone ever heard of the authors Eric and Leslie Ludy? They have wonderful books on these topics) |
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whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it's time to pause and reflect -Mark Twain |
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Adelynn
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| 06/25/2009 8:14 PM |
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I don't read romantic novels (The other day I got one of my girls at Bible Study to think about how they affect her and to consider giving them up!!! I pretended I wasn't jumping up and down inside) or watch romantic comedies (most of them are so inappropriate, not to mention make me think about things that I don't need to be thinking about yet... weddings and bf's and all that. I don't even watch Jane Austen movies).
So I'm not entirely sure where I even got the idea that guys do ask girls they like for romantic advice... hmmm I'll have to think about that.
Yeah, sorry, my comment wasn't well written.
But my question is, do guys ever ask girls they like for romantic advice? Mostly I'm wondering because I have friends who are obsessed with their crushes, and they get all thrilled when their crushes tell them about their lives and ask them for advice, and I'm like well, they aren't really asking you how you want to be asked out, they just want to know how to ask a girl out. |
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"Angel of Mercy, how did you find me? How did you pick me up again? Angel of Mercy, how did you move me, why am I on my feet again?" -One Republic |
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emilyjanelle
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| 06/26/2009 12:33 AM |
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I've been told that a guy won't ask a girl he likes for relationship advice, even though sometimes girls are hoping they are just trying to be tricky and pretend that it's about another girl.
yeah, this is sometimes true. I mean, my ex (who I'm still very good friends with) comments about other girls (friends or not) alot. not weird stuff ("she's so hott! dang! what do you think?!"), haha. but, "I like her hair" or "she's a great singer". that's not really "asking for advice", I know, but he's not avoiding the fact that he's a male and half of the rest of the world are females. so, I wouldn't read too much into it if one of your guy friends is asking you questions. but of course if they're really obvious about it, haha, well then. :p |
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Adelynn
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| 07/05/2009 7:04 PM |
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I've come up with some more =D
Why do some guys say my name all the time? Not in a creepy way or like it's worked in, it's just so much more often than most of the girls I talk to. Maybe that's just a speech habit, but that is what I'm wondering =]
Annnd, do guys generally tend to feel especially protective of tiny girls? I'm not tiny as in, tiny; I have a ballerina's body =P But I'm trying to figure out if it's that or if I just come across as too innocent =P Because I've been told that I intimidate people with my confidence, so I'm wondering why some guys seem so protective.
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"Angel of Mercy, how did you find me? How did you pick me up again? Angel of Mercy, how did you move me, why am I on my feet again?" -One Republic |
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clare
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| 07/06/2009 12:11 AM |
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Good question!! One reason they may say your name alot is because it flows. My boyfriend's niece is named Dusty Sue and good grief he says her name about every other minute and doesn't even know it! He says it's because it flows, feels good to say it. She is a little bit younger than you tho |
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David
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| 07/06/2009 6:10 PM |
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Clare's assessment of your name might be on the money.
As to your second question, it can depend. Maybe some guys instinctively feel that, being tiny, you can't take care of yourself as well as someone larger, and thus their level of protective feelings towards you increase. However, for myself, I know that I also feel very protective of big girls, especially about their being big. If I saw a guy making of fun a girl for her weight, especially if to her face, and especially if she's crying or close to it, I'd probably put him in the hospital. But hey, that's just me. |
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Aim at heaven and you will get earth thrown in. Aim at earth and you get neither.
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Nicole
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| 07/10/2009 12:08 AM |
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David, I must say I love your protective streak. 
*Sorry, I just read the last comment and it made me smile.
But i do think it's terribly rude and cruel for someone, anyone to make fun of someone just because of their weight, or some other aspect of their physical appearance. |
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whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it's time to pause and reflect -Mark Twain |
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JoJo
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| 07/10/2009 1:35 AM |
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| actually thats right. today my gran made a comment about some "big" person on tv and I was like "Don't be so mean, just cuz they can't hear you! it's not funny to make fun of people!!!" and she didn't get why I was so annoyed by her comment... |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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clare
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| 07/11/2009 1:25 AM |
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| I have always felt so sorry for big people (my bf was one of those) and I cream anyone who makes fun of someone because of their size. Or if someone is handicapped or has mental problems. When I was really little I told mom I wanted a baby that had down's syndrome because I knew I would love the baby and most people won't. Ok, I don't wish quite that now but that's all God's control. I have no Idea why I just blurted that all out. The hour is getting late... |
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Julie Fidler
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| 07/11/2009 10:50 PM |
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The thing is, the way girls see themselves... it's never just "I'm normal." It's always "I'm fat" or "I'm anorexic." It's a hard way to go through life.
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JoJo
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| 07/12/2009 12:56 AM |
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LOL totally agree with you julie!
I hate it cuz everyone thinks or says m anorexic... and I dont even look anorexic and I have to tell them "hello, to I have muscles, cuz usually, make that mostly when you're anorexic... muscles are the first to go..." I dont know why we've kinda forced ourselves into such a bad mindset... |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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