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maddiegirl
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| 04/10/2009 4:43 PM |
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Question on guy friends: I have 4 brothers, so I should be good w/ relating to guys, rite? But no. It's weird, because I have guy friends, but I always feel awkawrd around other guys that other girls seem fine with. I'm usually quiet around some guys because I just don't know what to talk about w/ them. I really want to be friends with them, but I'm just really bad at starting conversations or getting them interested. THe guy friends I already have are totally awesome, but I want to have more guy friends. SO what can I do to be friends w/ guys??  |
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emilyjanelle
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| 04/10/2009 4:54 PM |
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http://www.boundless.org/2005/articles/a0001475.cfm
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You may as well come quiet.
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Riptide
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| 04/16/2009 10:11 PM |
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hug em.  Really, itll help.
Err, i mean, with people who are already friends with you. Otherwise... |
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James
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| 04/16/2009 11:25 PM |
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Most guys have the same problem so don't worry, just talk about anything. If you're open with them they should feel comfortable and talk normally.
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Josh
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| 04/16/2009 11:59 PM |
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| Guys seriously don't care what you talk about.. as long as you include them in it. I don't mean incessantly askin questions. really. What I'm sayin is mess around with them alot more than trying to start conversations. And then the everything starts to flow cause your alot more comfortable.. |
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You should look before you cross the road. no. Seriously. You should. |
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MyLifeHisWill
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| 04/17/2009 7:39 AM |
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| Hey girlie - dont freak out about the guys, if theres one things I've learned with guys is that it really doesn't take alot to impress them, nor does it take alot to make a convo. Bring up baseball if you know anything about it, ask about thier last game, if they are playing a game of knock-out, join or watch. Be calm, don't worry, they will not bite you lol. Laugh at thier jokes, ask em how their "guy-day" went and seem interested when they inform you the skateboarded down a huge hill and smashed an old computer after blowing something up. Start chill on lameo subjects, and maybe your freindship will grow. Just remember most guys dont wanna talk about thier inner feelings two weeks after meeting you, it may take some time. Keep it simple, and who knows where it could go. But like I said, its really not complicated, you have brothers, what do they talk about? Think about that (obviously not girls cuz that could be wierd) and try to bring some of those things up... |
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I don't want to just "live" I want to experience life. |
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Mike
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| 04/19/2009 11:23 AM |
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| Step out of your comfort zone and try all the suggestions listed before -- over time you'll become more comfortable around guys you don't know. Also, the less you worry about being awkward, the less you will be -- guys have the same fear of being awkward in front of girls and so even if the conversation is a bit awkward it could be a good first impression. |
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maddiegirl
Posts:210
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| 04/28/2009 6:10 PM |
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| kk thanx every1 i appreciate it!! |
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Koudee
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| 04/28/2009 9:56 PM |
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First of all, you just don't know how awesome smashing up a old computer is until you have tried it! Lol (try to get him to invite you to one of his "lets go destroy something!!!" sessions  )
Na, Having 4 brothers will help, currently I'm an "item" with a girl who had a few, and its helped, but there are still things she isn't going to understand about me. One thing I have learned is that I can be drowning in the "female world" but don't have a clue about it, because "submersed" in it is different than "engaging" it. So you will know how to weave your way around guys, but don't be hard on yourself if engaging them still feels like new territory.
Although, the girl I am an “item” with can read me like a book! Its frustrating! I don’t know if her growing up with boys has anything to do with it, but she does have a keen sense for male reactions! |
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Axel
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| 04/29/2009 1:52 PM |
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I am the same way with girls ( I am a guy). Well, not just with girls, but some guys too. I have a hard time with conversations. I am shy, even around my friends! Idk why. Especially with the girl I like (who I have been friends with for 8 years  ). I am autistic, idk if that has somthing to do with it. Sometimes I start talking with somone, then stop because I do not know what to say next. It gets really annoying.
I suggest that if you want friends you should first introduce yourself. Tell them your name, chances are they will tell you theirs. Try small talk first. If its guys, try not to make them think you like them (Idk for sure, but I think guys can mistake that for a crush). Just be yourself.
Keep practicing! |
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Axel
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| 04/29/2009 1:54 PM |
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Another thing, dont always asume every guy likes to do the same things. Espacilly sterotype things (like blowing things up, likeing gross things, etc.) Everybody is different! |
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JoJo
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| 04/29/2009 8:49 PM |
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| haha well I've grown up as a girl surrounded by guys (brother, dad, cousins tonnes of guy friends...) and so I like alot more guy stuff than any "normal" girl. but yeah, I like blowing stuff up, shooting watermelons with a shotgun, paintballing, videogames etc... so usually if I just talk about that kinda stuff to them, they talk back haha. |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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Lindsey
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| 10/01/2009 4:03 AM |
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I think its pretty hard for me to have a true guy friend and I really want to have one,but they always develope some sort of like for me and it makes me feel weird having to tell them I want to remain friends.I ruins our friendship and I hate doing it.
------Lindsey<3 |
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