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Jamygirl
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| 07/11/2008 9:43 AM |
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My best friend is having some trouble with her brother. He is messing his life up and her family is trying to talk to him and tell him that what he is doing right now is going against the Lord. But he is not listening to them. What he is doing is wrong and he is hurting his family in the process. My friend is all shacken up about it, and tells me all about what has happened. I am not really sure how to respond to that. I cant tell her that everything is ok, because its not. And I can't say that he is an all around evil person because he is still her brother and I don't want to make her feel like her parents failed him or anything like that. Is there some way that I can encourage her without making it sound like I agree with what he is doing??
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mac
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| 07/11/2008 12:10 PM |
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| Actually the same thing is happening with my family right now; my brother is messed up, but in answering your question i don't know that there is anything you can say, but what i would want (seeing as i am in the same situation) is just to have my friend there listening to me when i need to talk or just someone to cry with. Basically just be there that is what she needs!!! |
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Julie Fidler
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| 07/11/2008 9:36 PM |
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I have a 14-year-old niece who is making very poor decisions and everyone is trying to help her, but she doesn't want to be helped. You can't force someone to get right with God and make better choices. That was a really hard thing for me to accept, actually, because I was a very "messed up" kid myself, and I want to prevent her from making the same mistakes. But the most important and powerful thing you can do for someone like that is to pray for them, and be a good witness.
It's a really helpless feeling, I know. 
-Julie
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Living4Jesus
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| 07/12/2008 1:50 AM |
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| Pray, pray pray! |
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Hope139
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| 07/13/2008 2:00 PM |
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| I have to agree with what's been said. I have seen friends make so many wrong choices and it's hard to deal with, but you just have to let them make their mistakes and pray that in time they will come around. Just continue being there for your friend, it's clear that she trusts you, and that's something that she'll really need right now. |
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May the Lord bless and keep you, may His face shine upon you, and be gracious and give you peace. |
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kosanchez777
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| 02/21/2009 9:57 AM |
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| The truth should set u free ms.Jamygirl |
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its hell trying 2 get into heaven |
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artyprincess
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| 02/22/2009 12:50 AM |
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| Yeah - just be there for her. Be a listening ear, and a shoulder to cry on. And keep praying, you can at least assure her of that, that you're thinking and praying for her. |
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God Can. |
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Nicole
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| 02/22/2009 6:45 PM |
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| I agree wholeheartedly with everything that's been said. Not really from experience, but from observation, I've learned that people who are on the wrong path in life are sometimes trying to find answers to whatever is going on inside of them and "pat answers" are the last thing they want to hear. I actually have a cousin who is going through some things that's caused her to make some bad choices and now she's seeing a psychiatrist with her family, but it's still happening and it is really affecting my aunt in huge ways and the only thing i can do is pray and remember that He loves her and everything is in his hands. I've had to learn that the hard way. But Jamygirl, yeah, just be her friend and everything will work out. |
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whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it's time to pause and reflect -Mark Twain |
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Becka
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| 09/21/2010 12:56 AM |
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| I have a brother almost the exact description. Being in a place similar to your best friend, I'd say the thing I'd like best and need the most is prayer, and when I'm freaking out, don't just say to give it to God. Of course I need to but this is a real and tough problem that needs crying about and a best friend's shoulder to dampen and leash anger at. A big part of it is immense hurt and anger - and especially with the latter, don't be shocked but simply hug her and agree with her. Pray with her but don't expect her to pray, just be as good a Christian best friend as you can. |
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my blog - http://beckasramblings.blogspot.com/
previously Jessamae.
the beauty of grace is that it makes life not fair - Relient K |
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