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MyLifeHisWill User is Offline

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02/23/2009 7:24 AM
Do you think its wrong to "fantasize" about "life" after marriage? Like the sexual part? I think it is but i was jw your opinions...

I don't want to just "live" I want to experience life.

emilyjanelle User is Offline

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02/23/2009 12:17 PM
the sexual part? definitely. that's lust, plain and simple. even if you don't have a boyfriend and you're just imagining what it "might" be like with a guy after marriage, that's still wrong in my book. and i struggle with it! believe you me. i'm not saying it's wrong to plain out your wedding to a T (haha, i have). that's fun! but then going so far as to think, "and then once we're on our honeymoon...oooh..." that's a slippery slope and one that the devil uses many a time. we don't think it's necessarily wrong sometimes because we don't know who "the one" is, so how is it wrong to fantasize? it's still lusting after something, in my mind. :]

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Locke

Posts:223

02/23/2009 12:51 PM
Definitely. All it does is encourage us to focus on what we don't have. Like emilyjanelle said, it leads to lust. Not the same for a girl as for a guy, but either way is bad. Sexual fantasies can be a script for future behavior. There's nothing wrong with hoping you'll have a wonderful marriage and planning what you're going to do to ensure that, but fantasizing? Not in my book.

It is trifles that make the sum of life.

JoJo

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02/23/2009 3:02 PM
It's a little like romance novels... Girl porn. Fantasizing in wrong in my book, I also struggle with it... but you've got to remember, you also don't want to have planned out scenario's and leaving unreachable expectations for your husband to have to live up to... It is lustful, and remember, to God, Lust is just like adultery. IE cheating on your future spouse... So yeah...

Turn up the music Turn it up loud Take a few chances Let it all out 'Cause you won't regret it Lookin' back from where you have been 'Cause it's not who you knew And it's not what you did It's how you live .-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-.-. God Bless! Mwah XOXO JoJo

MyLifeHisWill User is Offline

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02/23/2009 3:41 PM
Yea I totally agree. It's definately been a struggle for me too, emilyjanelle - thus the question. I totally agree with what Jojo said about the unrealistic expectations - thankyou so much for your feedback. Sometimes I freak out about nothing, so I just wanted to make sure my concern with those thoughts were legitimate. Thanku so much guyz!!!!!

I don't want to just "live" I want to experience life.

Julie Fidler User is Offline

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02/23/2009 7:29 PM
You guys can fantasize all you want to, but your thoughts almost never match the reality. I'll tell you this, though, from a married Christian woman... if you WAIT and do things in God's timing, with God's blessing, it will blow your mind. -Julie

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