SO1
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| 01/30/2009 1:41 PM |
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| There's a girl a really like at my youthgroup, but every time i go to talk to her i get really nervous. Any advice? |
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SO1
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| 01/30/2009 3:05 PM |
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| Let me reword that : i want to talk to her and hang out w/ her but i have no idea what to say when i go to talk to her. we both luv soccer(should i start a conversation w/ that?) . also how do i figure out if she has a boyfriend? |
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Locke
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| 01/30/2009 11:42 PM |
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Talk to her about what you have in common. Soccer is definitely a great opener. If you run out of things to say (I do all the time  ) ask her about herself. Learn about her, her family, what she likes and is interested in.
As for if she has a boyfriend or not, I wouldn't worry about that for a while. Not to say you should ask her out immediately or anything or ignore the fact she's dating, but I think it's better to build a dating relationship on a solid friendship instead of dating someone you barely know anything about. And if she does have a boyfriend, you'll know sooner or later after developing a friendship with her. |
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Mike
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| 01/31/2009 1:55 AM |
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Getting nervous is quite alright. Girl actually can find it kind of 'cute' if guys are nervous talking to them. I wouldn't worry too much about 'hanging out with her' though. Just go places with big groups of people and go to youth group and you can get to know her in the group setting where there's no pressure for anything.
Trust me -- if you're basing your dating relationship off of a friendship you'll be much better off. And plus there's no real need to date until after high school anyhow -- unless you're planning to get married at 18. I used to get to know people by dating them back in 7th and 8th grade, but then through a series of God-given events I learned that I would have a much better time getting to know people as friends in groups than dating people to get to know them. Everything you think you might need to know that you'd pick up on while dating is something you can learn as friends as well (except the physical aspects of relationships--which should in my opinion be saved for engagement and marriage anyhow).
I've got more I could say but I'm a bit tired at the moment (I hope what I said makes sense) |
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SO1
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| 01/31/2009 7:39 AM |
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| Thanks 4 the advice Mike and Locke. This Sun. I will hopefully go and talk w/ her. :] |
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SO1
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| 02/01/2009 12:44 PM |
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I talked 2 her @ church asked how she's doing and then i asked her how long she has played soccer she said she recently quit. her friend herd her say that asked why and they started talkin', then they walked away.
What should i do now i feel like she just blew me off. should i keep talking 2 her or what? any advice is welcome(guys + gals).
Steven from york, PA |
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Locke
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| 02/01/2009 2:17 PM |
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You've barely started - don't give up so soon. :p To really develop a worthwhile friendship takes time, and she probably knows her other friend better. Keep talking to her, even if it's only for a minute or two each time. Hang out if possible. Just don't give up.  |
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JoJo
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| 02/02/2009 4:14 AM |
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Yeah, she probably doesnt realise you actually wanted to talk to her...
keep trying. she'll eventually start talking to you more. Honestly, dont get offended that she walked away. She probably, make that most likely, didnt think you wanted to keep talking and wasnt trying to ditch you! trust me, girls are pretty clueless alot of the time... LOL
Keep talking to her. just dont give up! Girls like talking, so yeah... Well, i know I do  |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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SO1
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| 02/02/2009 9:23 PM |
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I'll keep tryin' , 4 some reason this is remindin' me about the little train that could except im getting my confidence up to talk 2 her instead of climbming a hill(that was a random thougt sorry). thanks 4 the advice, also (girls or guys) i could use some help 4 conversations 2 start w/ when i talk 2 her. any ideas? (besides soccer, i cant think recently due 2 confusing algebra) i'll write again on Sun.
Steven (the Steelers sooo paid the refs!!!) jk'n |
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Adelynn
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| 02/03/2009 9:40 AM |
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Maybe talk to her about/ask her what she thought about stuff your youth group does/talks about.
haha debatable about the Steelers... but I do wonder what was up w/ the NFL refs this year.... ;-] |
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SO1
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| 02/03/2009 3:21 PM |
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| That's a good idea. Thanks Adelynn. Sorry 'bout the random thoughts i was out of it last night. also if u want 2 c who she is go 2 codyouth.org (my youth groups site) if u scroll ↓ 2 where we r playin' freeball there's a picture of 2 girls she's the 1 holdin' the orange-ish dodgeball. no pics of me sorry ={ if u have any thoughts POST any of them i could use all the help i can get right now (P.S. i know its not Sun.) |
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JoJo
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| 02/03/2009 5:39 PM |
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Yeah, I suggest the same as Adelynn!
Talk about whatever you're doing at youth, the message, whatever. Maybe ask her what sports she likes... sports are usually a good topic as most people like some sort of sport. (You know, besides soccer... lol ) |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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SO1
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| 02/05/2009 12:31 PM |
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| New problem, Wed. night i wanted 2 talk w/ her, i had the chance but 4 some reason its really difficult 2 talk 2 her. then later another girl i dont know that well asked me some Qs and we got into a conversation! im confused how can i talk 2 one girl i barely know and then when i try talkin' 2 the girl i like i cant. i need help!!! |
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emilyjanelle
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| 02/05/2009 12:59 PM |
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| haha, that's sometimes the way the cookie crumbles. it's like, you feel WAY more nervous talking to the person you like then with someone you don't. why? i think it's because you're worried about saying all the right stuff and acting the perfect way with the person you have feelings for. trust me, olsen, you're NOT alone! but i think that's a good thing, to want to try your best around that person. not to say you should be "fake" or anything. but to an extent, don't be freaked out that you can't talk to this girl without getting clammy hands and stumbling over yourself. it's really okay! :] |
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SO1
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| 02/05/2009 6:27 PM |
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| Hopefully i'll talk 2 her on sun. thanks emily i get what u said. u freaked me out a little when u said olsen(its my last name) cause thats what the girl i dont know that well calls me. L0L! and 2 the other peeps i dont think im talkin' to her bout our lesson right now, its 'bout love (that would be awkward).if u have any thoughts that'd help me to stop gettin' so nervous please post 'em. |
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SO1
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| 02/13/2009 9:30 PM |
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| right now, luckily, we r in the same diciple-ship group. i can talk 2 her in a group, but not when i have the chance 2 talk and her friends aren't around. i guess its somethin' like stage fright except w/ a girl i like. the other girl i dont know that well is like so much easier 2 talk 2. its confusin'! here's what my youth leader said, "date w/ the intent 2 marry. my daughters r comin' home happy 1 day and crushed the next." just a random thought. i hope we can at least b friends, but idk. she doesn't seem 2 pay attention 2 me. any thoughts post em' |
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JoJo
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| 02/15/2009 6:26 AM |
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Maybe compliment her sometime?? like say, "Hey, you look nice today?" Girls love compliments... Sometimes I've fallen for a guy just cuz he had the nerve to talk to me and compliment me...  |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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Nicole
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| 02/15/2009 9:02 PM |
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| Oh dude, i feel for you. I kind of know what you mean. For me it's usually easier to talk to a guy i am not attracted to than for me to talk to a guy that i am attracted to. I'm pretty shy in that area; but i really agree with jojo: you should compliment her sometime. Girls do like that. Umm, another thing you could possibly do is pay attention to what she likes and does sometimes; then you have something to go off of when you do have a chance to talk or, if there comes a time, when she's down you have some idea of what to do to lift her spirits up. IDK if that was any help but i love it when a guy can keep a conversation going with me and i can laugh and crack a smile or two with him. |
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Lutie
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| 02/18/2009 1:58 AM |
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| Yeah, definitely compliment her. If nothing else, it'll probably make her smile |
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SO1
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| 02/18/2009 4:42 PM |
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| Like what would b a good compliment bcause im guessing i dont want 2 say somethin 2 serious? I'll do what JoJo said 2night and i know somethin' i can start a conversation w/ her about. Good advice! i'll post later on (if u have a thought post it plz) =} |
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