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~angel~
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| 12/29/2008 7:00 AM |
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i have been wondering about this for awhile. is it ok for girls to hug guys? and are certain hugs inappropriate to give to guys?
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Austin
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| 12/29/2008 10:53 AM |
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| Hugs are always good! Me and my friends brag about how girls hug us. Just make sure you lean into him, though. Otherwise he will get offended |
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Daughter of Zion
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| 12/29/2008 12:36 PM |
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| i always hug my guy friends. but often times it's a quick little hug and most of the time it's a side hug |
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Because I was created by God and for His glory, I will magnify Him as I respond to His great love. My desire is to make knowing and enjoying God, the passionate pursuit of my life. - Louie Giglio
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smartblonde77
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| 12/29/2008 1:33 PM |
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| Its no big deal with me and my friends! we hug all the time! i think it is fine but there are diffrent hugs it really depends on how close y'all are.... |
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artyprincess
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| 12/29/2008 4:15 PM |
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| Well, it depends on what you all feel comfortable with. I would say it's perfectly OK in my book! |
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wjr1991
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| 12/30/2008 12:34 PM |
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Haha... ok, Austin, nice response... I wonder if they picked up on that subtlety...
Me and my friends brag about how girls hug us.
Um, yeah... note the word how. Guys tend to do that. Hugs are great... but... you don't exactly want us to be feeling your figure while hugging us. We aren't blind- we notice it with our eyes well enough.
My personal advise would be go with the side hugs, or don't go squeezing the daylights out of the guy. (You know what I mean... it's like the difference between dressing to attract and dressing attractively... there's a way to hug that shows off your body, whether you intend it to or not.)
Of course, if you're talking about a boyfriend, the dynamics are totally different.
So... just out of curiosity, since guys usually notice a girl's "assets" when hugging them tightly, I was wondering- do girls notice, anything like that when hugging a guy... or, if not, do we tend to do anything like that, where we may be completely oblivious to what we're doing, but we're "showing off our assets" in a way that you might like, although not like to admit you like. (Yeah, we like the full on hugs... just usually in a way that's awkward to admit.) |
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~angel~
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| 12/30/2008 1:31 PM |
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ok. thanx for the advice.
um i can't really think of an asset. i guess it's more of the way you are acting and holding yourself about your body that would be a problem for me. like a girl being flirtatious and showing off her body to get attention. does that make sense?
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emilyjanelle
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| 01/01/2009 8:49 PM |
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yeahhh, william. amen to the side hugs! man, at my age (17), they're my best friend right now. full on hugs are just too...i don't know, creepy. i mean, that's not to say any of my guy friends are actual creeps, not at all. but giving a full on, squeeze-mania hug? my word, that's like dangling a rawhide bone in front of a rottweiler, he's drooling and aching to come and snatch it!
girls who are, shall we say, "well-endowed", best be careful. i know, i know, you're thinking, "ZOMG! so-and-so would never hug me because of that!" ummmmmmm...okay let's look at the facts: 1.) he's a guy. 2.) you're a girl. 3.) God wired us as sexual beings. 4.) and you're pressing yourself up against him? riiiiiiight, of course he's not looking forward to hugging you. you keep telling yourself that. *smirk*
again to william, i'd have to agree with angel, there aren't many "assets" (that i can think of) that would make hugs difficult for me. even if a guy is like, buff and amazingly gorgeous, hugs just aren't that big of a deal...on my end. keep that in mind, everybody. and girls, just because you think hugging the life out of your best guy pal is hunky-dory, doesn't mean he's thinking exactly the same thing.
just my bluntly honest opinion. :] |
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emilyjanelle
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| 01/01/2009 8:51 PM |
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| ps to austin - if a guy's offended because i don't "lean into him" enough, then he ain't worth a hug anyway. [: |
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^^@di$()N
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| 01/01/2009 9:33 PM |
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Ahh, I tend not to hug my guy friends at all.... cause everytime they do hug one of my girl-friends, they like embrace them, and hug them real tight for as long as they can till she slips away (making it in a friendly-joking but oh-so-close way), -- ofcourse my girl-friends think its so funny, and do not think they are hugging them till there practically suffocating because they want to get close to their body... cause us my girls just don't think like that.
Butttt, I see the smirks on the guys' faces as they hug them, and they tell all =P So, I just rather not even hug my guy friends, I can't even give them a side hug, cause they just grab me and bring me in closer. Gaahh, teenage boys =P |
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maddiegirl
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| 01/03/2009 2:39 PM |
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| I only hug the guys that are special to me, and not really tight either. I usually don't initiate the hugs - the guy does - but I generally hug guys full on. NOt too tight tho lol |
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JoJo
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| 01/05/2009 7:49 PM |
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| hahahaha, I hug my guy friends, but only ones that are close enough to me, like who I deem as worhty of a hug lol. I like hugs, but I agree, i do feel akward if they dont let go though... and it's weird when guys ask me for hugs, then Im like "Uh... No." lol its quite funny... as for assets... i know what guys are on about, but I dont think girls think like that... but if the guy has his shirt off... thats a big distraction!!! especially if he's good looking... (I dont know how else to phrase it without causing offence...) but like if a guy hugs me like his arms touch my lower back, i freak out, thats just TOO CLOSE!!!!!!! and normally hugs only last for like 2 seconds. I hug my brother and dad longer, but they're family, so it doesnt really count. |
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JoJo
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| 01/05/2009 7:51 PM |
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| Oh, one thing Ive noticed is that if I hug one guy friend goodbye, then they all want a hug!! its so funny! It's like a competition!!! |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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Stupor
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| 01/07/2009 1:01 AM |
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| Yo I'm not down with the whole girls hugging their guy friends.........We're supposed to be pure and holy before God which is pretty hard to do when a girls boobs are pressed up against a guys chest. |
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emilyjanelle
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| 01/07/2009 9:45 AM |
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| haha! stupor, i laughed outloud when i saw your post. VERY well said! :] |
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JoJo
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| 01/08/2009 4:44 AM |
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So did I actually. lol
Oh and just so you know, guys, alot of girls get uncomfortable if guys talk uotspokenly bout that type of stuff... lol.
(especially guy stuff that girls dont need to know or hear about!) |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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mac
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| 01/08/2009 11:23 PM |
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| i actually kinda disagree with u there jojo.... i mean i definitely don't think guys should be crude, but if guys don't tell us how will we know not to do something or where a certain thing....? One time i was out with some friends and one of the guys said he did not like it when girls wore words across their chest (and i was thinking what the heck that does not make any sense). but they about a month later i was out with my best friend and her bro and he told us that he does not like it when girls have words across theirs boobs because he looks at them trying to see what it says and then realizes what he is looking at and then there's problems... after knowing the reason i was like really.. i never knew that and then i wanted to stop wearing those kinds of shirts to help my guy friends... and yeah sometimes it is embarrassing to hear this from a guy, but you know what we need to hear it or else we wont know the reason why we need to change. those are just my thoughts... |
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emilyjanelle
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| 01/09/2009 8:31 AM |
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mac, you have a very good point! but just so you know, jojo didn't mean what you think she did, i'm sure. i'm quite certain she meant the crude stuff, that it's just like, "wow, please shut up now." because it's really disgusting. but the stuff you mentioned mac, would be totally chill to hear from my guy friends, because then i'd know what they like and don't.
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JoJo
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| 01/09/2009 9:49 PM |
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LOL yeah, i did mean the crude stuff... lol but yeah, i do wanna know if guys have a problem with stuff i wear.
Like at youth, it's mostly guys. I was the only girl for a while and last year we finally got a few more girls to come. but yeah, us girls all wanted to leave the room when the guys all went descirptive, we were like "Can you stop. You know, we arent guys and we dont need to hear this..." LOL  |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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mac
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| 01/10/2009 6:18 AM |
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| ooh ok... lol.. sorry for the confusion jojo... |
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