Beckah
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| 01/17/2011 1:52 PM |
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| ok so theres this guy that know, he had a gf but she dumped him and before that we were always texting and he knew i liked him and whatnot, i really thought there was something for us but than he went and got a gf. i was happy for him but deep down it ate me up so thats why i wanted to date that one guy in the other post, just to get back at this guy.(i even told him all of this) when that dint work out i realized what i did and i was ok Lord im all yours again, guide me and show me the way you want me to go. so any ways this guy that i have like for sometime now texted me the other night. we both asked for eachothers forgivness on it and now we are starting our friendship all over, a new beginning. so now he wants to "snail mail" me. like write me letters!! ok now thats really sweet of him! this is how he asked me for my address,(we were texting) "Miss Hutcherson, My I have your mailing address if you would be so kind?"
i said "Why Yes Mr.----- here it is..."
he said "Thank you Miss, you have been so very kind." haha now thats a way to treat a lady!
Since we are "just friends" when we write to each other what kind of boundrys should there be? like what do we write about? do i say dear --- or hey ---,, i was thinking talking bout the bible and what we have learned in our personal devos. any ideas? |
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Beckah
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| 01/17/2011 1:59 PM |
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oh and another thing, In church on sunday the serman was on forgivness, dude if that dint hit me on the head like a ton of bricks i dont know what would have, so during the whole srevice i was asking God for forgiveness on what i did, and i forgave this guy, he dint know i did till last night when i told him everything i did and how i felt about our relationship. he kept saying how bad he felt, how insensitve he was tword my feelings, i told Him all is forgiven so now we can move on.  |
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Becka
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| 01/17/2011 6:00 PM |
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Well I'm good friends with a guy who wrote me letters for while when he couldn't email. I was a bit surprised he signed his first letter "Love, ..." but I then did the same back to him and it kept going quite respectfully. We both began our letters with "Hey ...," and talked about things that were happening in each of our separate places, spiritual things we thought of and/or struggled with, saying we'd pray for each other and updating how life's going. Things like that. Hope this helped! I'm glad things were patched up between you guys.
One thing though - are you talking about a friendship or is there something more between you guys? Because then my advice might be a bit different. |
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Beckah
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| 01/18/2011 9:09 PM |
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| well i really like him he even knows that, and i think he might like me too. but i dont want to be a "rebound" girl for him. its like he is being all nice like he his ex never came about. it makes me wonder if he really did like her or not............ |
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Beckah
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| 01/20/2011 1:58 PM |
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we have been texting every night so when i go to bed i think of him, he is even in my dreams!! lol
ok so i told him just that much and he said well thats funny cus i have the same problem but only its you instead of me. and he was serious! so i think we need to slow down on all the texting. IDK yet... |
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James
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| 01/20/2011 5:51 PM |
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Haha that's cute
It's easy for txting to get out of hand, I txted a girl everyday for a couple of weeks and I don't like her but she was on my mind a lot and because I didn't see her in person I really missed her and got a bit too clingy and over the top.
I think txting is good because you can be open and get to know each other well but in reality you don't know them as well as you feel. There's a couple of girls who I txt a lot and don't see much, we got pretty close even before I met them and meeting them for the first time was really strange. I wanted to act like I knew them really well but it just sort of didn't come out, the new friend awkwardness was still there even though I knew them quite well.
So basically I would say don't get to heavy with the txting, if you always txt him then give him a chance to txt you or vise versa. You shouldn't stop talking to each other but it's easy to get attached to someone who is different in your head than they are in real life |
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Beckah
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| 01/20/2011 6:53 PM |
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cute?!?! lol JK
i agre, i dont want this relationship or whatever it is,(im not sure where we are) to get going so fast and texting all the time. Before he meet ex, we were like how we are now minus the sending pics and and betting who is happier when we text. lol but see i want to take things slow and if we are "just friends" than we should cut back on the texting and stuff. i just hope it works for us, it was going so good and then he went and got a GF and he thought she was the "1" and then she breaks up with him. I dont want that to happen again. Plus im prooly acting all selfesh, an i dont want to be that way!
its like we get close and he pulls away for some other girl.
Would it be wrong to ask him if "hey are we just friends, or is there a possible something more?" |
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James
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| 01/20/2011 8:57 PM |
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well if you told him that he might think you didn't have many feelings for him (except that you've already told him you like him..)
Sometimes feeling strongly for someone can feel selfish, even when you are just thinking about them and their wellbeing.
If you aren't sure where it's going but you know where you don't want it to go it's probably a good idea to tell him that |
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Beckah
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| 01/21/2011 12:02 PM |
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| i dint text him last night cuz i had a nasty headache and went to bed early. so guess what, he wasnt in my dreams! haha ya know i think i talk to him bout our friendship... i just pray he dosent get all weird or anything. |
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James
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| 01/21/2011 5:53 PM |
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that's a good idea I don't think I've ever dreamed about someone like that, the few I get are totally random haha
hope your headache is all better |
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Beckah
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| 01/21/2011 6:23 PM |
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haha mine are random too. I got his 3 and half page letter today! haha it was very nice.
ok this is what he said bout our relationship, " i think we should be happy with being good friends-and if the Lord leads us futher, than i honestly cant wait!" i guess that sums up my question on where we are in our friendship.
Yep my headache is all better... I used to get them everyday and migrane meds dint help, but now im getting accupucture and now i rarely get a headache, i think the one last night was cuz im getting a cold.... Anyways..... |
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James
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| 01/22/2011 3:21 AM |
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that's really good of him I think I'm sure you'll figure it all out
I get migraines sometimes like once every few months and they aren't fun  it's good that they are getting better though |
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Beckah
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| 01/24/2011 1:41 PM |
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| since him and i text everday, we decided to just write letters and sometimes text. Because Just Friends dont text everyday. It was a mutal decision.. |
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| 01/24/2011 6:50 PM |
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| ive been in the same place n ya texing every day makes it difficult to b 'just friends'!! |
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Beckah
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| 01/24/2011 9:36 PM |
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| yes!! its very hard.. lol |
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James
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| 01/25/2011 7:42 AM |
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haha agreed.. it's weird
you don't really notice it until you stop or start missing them a lot |
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Beckah
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| 01/25/2011 8:18 AM |
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| havent talked to him in almost 2 days!! Ahhhhhhhh!!!! lol jk but its for my own good. |
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clare
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| 01/25/2011 3:15 PM |
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| if you're writing and texting, that might be a lot of communication and hard to keep your head clear. I emailed, then texted and called my boyfriend for 7 months before we started dating and I felt like i knew him SO well, but once we met it was like wow this is who I was talking to! We started dating but I didn't get to see him for another 2 months and now we are together and I still struggle with talking about personal things in person! When I'm off @ work for the week he'll call and we end up talking about the big issues over the phone rather than in person. Guess what I'm getting at, is you can get to know someone almost too well thru texing and writing and you need to be careful not to get carried away, and getting a too good impression of who they are. It's not as easy to see flaws thru texting |
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James
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| 01/25/2011 7:42 PM |
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Wow that would be identical to what I would have written Clare  It's just you wrote it much more clearly and more expressively than I would have haha It is so so true though
I made a bit of a conscious decision to not txt this girl as much as I had been, it was just a routine that I would txt her everyday. It's a lot better now though, at first it was hard but now I don't really think about how long it's been or whatever. We still txt most days but I usually put it off for a day and she might txt me instead of me being the first every time. It feels much more like a 'normal' friendship which is of course what I want
It's great that you can look at it in a broader sense Beckah
"it hurts, I miss him and all I want is to just talk to him but... I won't because it's for the best"
It's how God shapes us into who He wants us to be |
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Beckah
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| 01/26/2011 12:15 AM |
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It's great that you can look at it in a broader sense Beckah
"it hurts, I miss him and all I want is to just talk to him but... I won't because it's for the best"
It's how God shapes us into who He wants us to be
Thanks James! You have helped me alot.
Clare, i know what you mean. Its like you think you know everthing about this person, and yet you see him in person,"whats there to talk about"? Yes, you dont know what his flaws are and how he acts around other girls, guys, family, other adults....
See i have known this guy for just a little over a year, he is my best friends cousin, and so i have seen him sometimes during the hoidays. But it wasnt till summer bible camp that we really talked and became good friends. |
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