Daughter_of_the_King
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| 01/08/2011 2:12 AM |
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So I really really like this guy and we've talked about relationships and stuff before and he said he likes it when a girls asks him out and I'm okay with that. Question is, How do you ask a guy out? I've never done it before.
Second question is I haven't seen him in person for a long time but for this last month or so we've been talking ALOT! Should we hang out before I ask him?
Third question is his brother said that his ex-girlfriends have said that he is frustrating to date but I've never had a boyfriend before and I'm not like any other girl on this planet I promise I'm quite quiant. So do you think it might be different with me just because I'm not like thoes other girls?
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JoJo
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| 01/08/2011 3:08 AM |
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wow, alot of questions...
for #1, I am personally apposed to the "girls asking a guy out" thing for the reasons alot of guys on here will tell you 
#2, idk, I'm not the best person to give advice about the whole "Not seeing him for a while" thing, as my last to relationships like that ended bad. so... i donno, i'd probably wait to hang out a while in person, see if he's the same as when you talk on the phone or internet etc.
#3, i think most girls are generally the same, even if you aren't quaint, it doesn't mean he won't be exactly the same to you as with them... but you won't know unless you've been there...
but I'd be wise about it...
Age is a big factor in these things, so it depends on your age. Also ask your parents or a trusted, wise, adult who knows both of you what they think. Adults do actually know what they're talking about, as i'm finding out now being an "official adult" myself. haha, i look back on my teen years thinking I was such an idiot
but yeah, if you have questions, ask them 
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Daughter_of_the_King
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| 01/09/2011 12:50 AM |
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Well I guess what I ment by quiant it that I'm very unushual and when something frustrates a "normal" girl it doesn't frustrate me as much as it would them espeshally things guys do because I have four brothers all my friends will be lyk this is frusterating that is fruserating and it will either not bother me at all or only bug me a little bit
As in advice on us being together the only person I feel comfortable asking that knows the both of us is his brother who is my trusted adult lol. The only advice he has given me is pretty much do what I think is best he's a great friend but sometimes I like just to be told what to do! hahahaha
Thank you for your help though |
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dc_88keys4christ
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| 01/09/2011 3:40 AM |
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he said he likes it when a girls asks him out and I'm okay with that. Question is, How do you ask a guy out? I've never done it before.
I'd say don't go for it. He's not being man enough to ask you out. It is his job to make that move, not yours. |
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Clockwork*
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| 01/09/2011 4:14 AM |
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Does he expect you to propose to him too if you get married...? 
You don't really ask guys out, but I guess if you were going to just say "want to go out with me?" What has become of my generation... |
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Daughter_of_the_King
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| 01/09/2011 12:17 PM |
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| @Clockwork I know I never even thought of it as an option until we were just talking about realationships and he said he wanted the girl to ask him out next time he goes out with someone. Plus I really really like him and I think we could be good for each other. Thank you for the advice on how to ask him :-) |
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Clockwork*
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| 01/09/2011 12:41 PM |
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| =(. Don't use my first advice, just talk to him privately in person and say (in your own words) "'boy' I've felt like this for a while. I've noted several aspects you have, and ultimately came to the conclusion that we are absolutely compatible. I wish I could adequately explicate my feelings for you, but that's not even feasible. I just want you to know that, regardless of how you feel for me, I feel strongly for you. At first I wsn't sure, but now I see clearly. I'm trying so hard to explain to you how I feel, but I know it's all done in vain. My attempts are futile. My emotions ar legitimate. I know this is a lot to take in at once, and maybe I caught you off guard, but just know that even if you ever came to a point where you thought you couldn't experience love or were simply not worthy enough to take a woman by your side, know that I'm here, and I would be willing to sacrifice so much to have you by my side - to protect me, to hold me, to comfort me... with all that said, I can't stop myslf from asking the inevitable question. It's something that's been gnawing at my mind, my very own psyche. I by no means am desperate but only ask this in this fashion to demonstrate my passion for you - will you please at the very least consider being my partner, and even more so, my boyfriend? Would you bless me with the gift of you? Would you allow me to call you mine? Can we share exeriences, both good and bad, trials and happiness, can we build each other up, God's Word being our solid foundation. Can we make memories... just the two of us... and even if you say no, I am willing to still hold a relaionship that goes no deeper than the platonic level. But I cannot help but wonder what amazing, ecstatic, lovely and beauteous experiences we could share if you said but a 3 letter word... Yes. I appreciate you letting me pour myself onto you, I just felt so compelled to say such things. I am sure you agree that it is better to love and lose, than to never love at all..."
Maybe you could say that in your own words. Just a thought though. Hope I helped. |
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"They told me 'Son, you're special... You were born to do great things.' Well you know what...? They were right..." - Jack *Bioschock 1*
I sit in this chair in awe of how you have this effect on me. It's as if I went to a pharmicist and they handed me you. When I smell you I become intoxicated by your narcotic aroma. I am addicted to you as if you were some specialized nicotine. I swallow your gaze like ecstasy. Please sedate me and do what you wish; never cease to be my personal prescribed heroin...
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dc_88keys4christ
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| 01/10/2011 10:17 AM |
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I'd still say don't do it. You shouldn't be asking a guy out.
Did you see my first post on this thread?
Does anyone else have suggestions? |
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Daughter_of_the_King
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| 01/11/2011 11:10 PM |
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@Darcie I don't want to be rude but I made up mind that I was going to and I already did I was just asking about how I should. He said to give him a little time to think about it hehehe.
@Clockwork I loved your advice and it sounds sweet but it kinda sounds like a purposal instead of asking someone just simply to be your boyfriend no offence, I loved it and it sounded sweet though |
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James
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| 01/12/2011 5:57 AM |
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@Clockwork Wow that is quite some explanations  sounds good though haha
I've forgotten how much fun giving your opinion was haha
Well I used to be pretty opposed to the whole girl asking a guy out thing but now I'm not so sure.. Some people take dating/courting very seriously and that's great. Other's (especially if they start a bit younger) don't think of it as such a major thing and I think that's ok too
Most males, especially in their mid teens, really have no clue when it comes to girls. I know I didn't haha, sometimes they need really, really obvious information. Like a girl asking them out for example
Just for the record I've always been single and while dating during school years isn't always great, it isn't always bad either. I think teenage girls are made with needs only teenage guys can fill. Many relationships, however, just don't last and while that's sad, that's the nature of teenage romance unfortunately. In reality all romances aren't long term things, Romance is like an outward high of love, with some people it matures into something that can last a lifetime and in others it just fades.
Hope I didn't put a pessimistic spin on things, hope everything works out with you and this boy
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Clockwork*
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| 01/12/2011 3:05 PM |
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| Yeah, I was half joking with all of what I said. Lol it is fun embellishing sometimes hahah. Even I wouldn't say that t someone I was only dating |
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"They told me 'Son, you're special... You were born to do great things.' Well you know what...? They were right..." - Jack *Bioschock 1*
I sit in this chair in awe of how you have this effect on me. It's as if I went to a pharmicist and they handed me you. When I smell you I become intoxicated by your narcotic aroma. I am addicted to you as if you were some specialized nicotine. I swallow your gaze like ecstasy. Please sedate me and do what you wish; never cease to be my personal prescribed heroin...
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Daughter_of_the_King
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| 01/14/2011 6:38 PM |
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@James thank you your opinion was very interesting! So far things are going great with us we decided we should hang out a little bit more before a major decision and we made the decision together! lol
@Clockwork Hahaha that's awesome! It is fun to embellish sometimes lol. |
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Becka
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| 01/14/2011 7:23 PM |
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@James
Other's (especially if they start a bit younger) don't think of it as such a major thing and I think that's ok too
I disagree. How can you go both ways and say it's good for teens to take dating seriously as well as it's fine if younger teens don't? Dating/courtship is a major thing and shouldn't be flippant.
Most males, especially in their mid teens, really have no clue when it comes to girls.
Sooo agree!
I think teenage girls are made with needs only teenage guys can fill.
Not sure where you're coming from but what happened to God's place in this? You're probably not saying that it's correct for girls to try let guys fulfill them but it certainly sounds like that. Could you elaborate?
@Clockwork - haha love the embellishment! |
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Becka
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| 01/14/2011 7:24 PM |
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| Why is there no edit button? LOL sorry first time using quotes. |
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my blog - http://beckasramblings.blogspot.com/
previously Jessamae.
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James
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| 01/15/2011 9:45 PM |
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Thanks for the feedback In some ways I agree with you more than I do with myself now haha
For young teens to get into what they think are 'serious' relationships, especially when they are hitting puberty and are on an emotional rollercoaster, isn't the best idea. I do think the majority of teenagers aren't really suitable or equipped for relationships either. It sounds like I'm contradicting myself and that's probably because I am haha. I think the thing is I see my younger friends in relationships and from what I can see it seems like the right thing for them.
Thinking back to my first year of highschool, all the girl/boy issues seemed so silly and trivial but in reality that's how young teenagers develop.
I sort of skipped all that haha I had a crush for about 3.5 years and the hardest, bravest and best decision I made in those years was to ask her out. While we only hung out once and never had any romance between us (except in my head lol) it was really a big moment where I changed. It was only a couple of months after that that I got over her completely. I thank God that He gave me the courage to do something about my feelings but that He didn't let anything happen and let me get over her without any pain
Not sure if I've elaborated much but that's sort of where I'm coming from
on the teenage needs thing.. I've kind of changed my mind but yeah God definitely is the one who can fulfill every need. I think part of what I meant is teenagers never know what they need, just what they want. Most go through a stage of wanting romance and someone to love and be loved by. I think sometimes having a taste of romance can help people realise that some of their yearning is for God's love and not the guy/girl they've had their eye on for a while.
That probably just sounds like wishful thinking haha. Sorry I've never been great at fully expressing myself about an idea that I'm not completely sure on |
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Daughter_of_the_King
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| 01/16/2011 2:09 PM |
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| @ James I agree with allot of what your saying but I also take some of it offencively (idk spelling) |
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James
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| 01/19/2011 5:31 AM |
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| Well I hope I haven't caused too much offense what exactly don't you agree on? |
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Daughter_of_the_King
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| 01/22/2011 12:40 AM |
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| I went back and read what you said. I'm sorry I got confused by something you said. I'm not offened any more I'm sorry about that miss understanding there |
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Daughter_of_the_King
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| 01/22/2011 12:46 AM |
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| Oh did I mention that things are going great with this guy?!?! We get along so well we talk like almost everyday! He calls me his girl and says that we have somthing special that he doesn't ever want to loose! When I talk to him I feel like I am on cloud nine it's fantastic!!! |
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| 01/22/2011 12:57 AM |
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| hye im kinda new here. ya its so cool having a guy that makes u feel so special!n u can talk n talk for hours n nevr run out of things to say!its awsum |
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