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LoLo
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| 11/27/2010 1:32 PM |
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| Hi everyone, I've been looking through a lot of the posts and am disappointed in reading about girls and boys giving their hearts away here and there. Some people call us old fashioned, my threes sisters and I, but we believe in preserving our hearts, minds, and bodies for our spouse.
I am mainly disappointed with the boys however. I've always liked the idea of a brother(since I don't have one), but was saddened when I looked for someone to be my true brother in Christ, and could not find one. All attentions were focused elsewhere. Boys, is it possible to think a girl as your sister? Is it possible to have more than that one thing on your mind? Is it possible for a guy to love Jesus, and love Him so much that nothing else is important? Is it possible for a girl to be liked for who she is and for not what she can do?
Guys, is it possible to have higher standards for yourselves? to grow to become a brother to all, but a prize to one??? |
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dc_88keys4christ
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| 11/27/2010 2:25 PM |
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Hi LoLo, I agree with you in some areas; yes, it is very sad to see young men and women giving their hearts away, not only by caving in to sinful desires regarding the opposite gender, but in any weak area of life that becomes an obcession that we allow to take priority over Christ. No, you are NOT old- fashioned! It is BIBLICAL for each of us to save our bodies for The One that God has for us, and even more importantly, for the glory of God. With that being said, I see the need to address a misconception found in your paragraph, so I will do that now.
I am mainly disappointed with the boys however. I've always liked the idea of a brother(since I don't have one), but was saddened when I looked for someone to be my true brother in Christ, and could not find one. All attentions were focused elsewhere.
Your universal statement (use of always, never, all, none, etc.) is quite untrue. I'm pretty certain that as you were browsing through the forums, you ran across comments from guys who love the Lord and are stiving to put him first! (Will, Lucky, Grant, Cerno4500, to name a few, and there many others I can't think of at the moment!!! Sorry guys...I can't keep track of you all!)
Proof that the answer to your questions is "yes"!
Boys, is it possible to think a girl as your sister? Is it possible to have more than that one thing on your mind? Is it possible for a guy to love Jesus, and love Him so much that nothing else is important? Is it possible for a girl to be liked for who she is and for not what she can do? Guys, is it possible to have higher standards for yourselves? to grow to become a brother to all, but a prize to one???
YES, it is possible to have brother/sister relationships with other believers! YES it is possible to have more than one thing on the mind! (I think the poor guys would get a little bored if they couldn't...) :o) Not all guys are so shallow that they are going to want a girl only for her surface characteristics. Sure they're tempted at times, but aren't we all? Those of us who truly seek to serve and honor the Lord can't get it right every time, because of our sin. That is what God's grace is for. He delivers us and loves us even though we fail Him. I urge you, not to pass judgement on these brothers, but rather to be patient and loving, and find ways that you can encourage them to grow in the Lord! Any guy who is really in love with God is going to have His love shining in and through his life, and that makes him a brother.  |
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Beckah
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| 11/27/2010 4:47 PM |
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| I agree with you LoLo. |
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"Check yourself before you wreck yourself" |
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LoLo
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| 11/28/2010 11:38 AM |
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| Thanks Darcie, I guess I shouldn't be so harsh sometimes and love them where they are at :o) |
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Liz
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| 11/28/2010 2:55 PM |
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Yes! Guys can be your friends/brothers!!
I came out of summer camp with a better relationship with my cousin, whos just months younger than me, and with a new "family". Me, another girl, and a guy. We have so much fun together, and also good conversations! Me and "my brother" text alot, since he lives about 4 hours away from me and "my sister", but you can tell that our conversations are almost sibling-like, which I am totally cool with. We still do our groups of three (no purpleing allowed ) but it's just really cool!
So yes, Guys can be brothers, but they're not always around. |
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A girl should be so lost in God that a guy has to go in Him in order to find her |
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clare
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| 11/29/2010 8:21 PM |
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yeah...there are guys that are like that. But very rare..!! I found one  but I understand how you feel. Even my parents say there are so few godly young men out there. No young man is perfect!!! I know I've had to make my 'ideal man' more realistic but in certain areas you don't want to budge. My boyfriend is from 1,500 miles away and I think I was right there are no good young men in our area!
Guys can be "brothers" to girls. I have several guy friends that I am very close to and I know the girl he chooses will be getting a prize I know these guys inside and out, I know their biggest mistakes and regrets, and they are very devoted to God, but every young man does have one thing on their mind a lot...God made them that way and within a marriage relationship, it's very important they are that way. You will never find a man who doesn't have that on his mind quite frequently. Instead looking for a man who can control himself through the power of God is all you can ask. |
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LoLo
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| 11/29/2010 8:41 PM |
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Yeah clare, they are rare! You know several you say? Oh! I'm jealous! Can I have one?
just kidding :o) It's good to know there are brothers out there. I guess I should just act more like a sister. Maybe that would help. |
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JoJo
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| 11/30/2010 6:00 AM |
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| i have a few guy friends who are like my brothers... and I have one brother. and yeah it is possible for them to not think of you in weird ways. like my best guy friend is straight, and we love each other like siblings, but everytime someone suggests we date, we're both like... "Um... she's like my sister/he's like my brother" and another who has been my friend since preschool, and it's the same.though some guys are idiots... (sorry boys) like one of the guys I used to like... idk i saw him like a brother, and aparently he saw me like a sister, but idk, it turned into something where he was more concerned about what he wanted to talk about and his problems, and when I wanted to talk, he wouldn't talk... so you have both... |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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Adelynn
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| 11/30/2010 8:19 AM |
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| I didn't exactly chase after guys, but for awhile I certainly wasn't chasing after God! So for that time in my life, there were no Godly guys in many of the places I was. Why would they have been in the groups of young adults flirting with each other after church? They weren't. It was when I started focusing on what God wanted, how He wanted me living my life, doing the things He wanted instead of flirting with any available (or not) guy that my Brothers started slowly appearing =] |
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"Angel of Mercy, how did you find me? How did you pick me up again? Angel of Mercy, how did you move me, why am I on my feet again?" -One Republic |
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