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| 08/05/2010 3:43 PM |
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I like these two guys, but I know I have to choose between them. They are both good christian
guys, I have a lot in common with each of them, and in some ways to me
they seem very much a like. But I know I can't keep liking them both, I
have to decide which one God wants for me. I've been praying but my mind
seems so clouded I can't get a straight answer.
Guy one has already
asked me out, and guy 2 said he thought about it but is still praying
because he isn't sure if this is what God wants or not. So you see, if I
went with guy one, who has already asked me, I'm afraid that then guy 2
might decide to ask me out, or if I just wait for guy 2 who hasn't
asked yet, what if
he never does then I missed going out with guy 1.
Please any advice would be helpful. I need to figure all of this out soon.
~Torn~
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| 08/05/2010 4:02 PM |
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sorry the type is all weird I don't know why it did that.
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Lucky Albatross
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| 08/06/2010 10:01 PM |
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The way you've described them, seems like you won't lose either way you go. My advice, if you'll have it is simply take Guy 1 on his offer. He's already taken the initiative to ask. Also, one date doesn't mean a commitment to a relationship. Whoever you ask, size him up that first date. It seems ruthless, but it works for me. I can usually figure out if a person is worth my time before the date is up. That helps me decide whether or not to commit to that girl. Hope that helps a little bit! |
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JoJo
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| 08/06/2010 11:48 PM |
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| seriously... lots of girls end up liking more than one guy at a time, and I've had to do the same thing, pray for God to only single out one in my mind. depending on your age, I'd say maybe wait a bit longer to decide... maybe tell #1 you're not sure about dating yet, but you'll go on a "friend" date? like as friends... this way there's no pressure, and it's easier to see how this guy actually is? like he'll be more himself if it's not a "date date" haha. and you might figure out he's awesome, or not so much... |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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| 08/07/2010 12:25 AM |
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Thanks lucky and jojo, both of your advice has helped a lot, I'm glad I'm not the only one who has liked more then one guy at a time. I prayed about it a lot and God did single out number 1 in my mind, and we are planning on hanging out sometime, just like friends. Yeah I'm 16 almost 17 and I'm planning on taking things slowly. Plus I'm always trying to keep my eyes open. 
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clare
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| 08/07/2010 2:03 PM |
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why does this remind me of the Anne of Green Gables books??? Was the girls name Phillipa or something? She couldn't decide between Alec or Alonzo...and it turned out to be neither!!LOL
I think Jo and Lucky are right. I would probably blurt out to guy 2 that there is a guy 1 that already asked you out and you don't know what to do. That might make one of them get their act together! |
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| 08/11/2010 5:03 PM |
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Thanks again to everyone for you advice, I feel everything is under more control now. Anywho, I have one other question, You see all of the stuff between me and the two guys happened in about a 2 month period. I met guy 1 and we talked a lot for about the first month then the second month rolled around and we hardly talked. So I really drifted away from him, then at the end of the two months I met guy number 2 and now we are really close.
So in one sense I do feel things happened really fast, but I also feel like it didn't. My parents said that they felt it was too fast and didn't want me to give people the impression that I'm boy crazy (which I'm not) God just had me meet both of these guys around the same time.
So what do y'all think?
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JoJo
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| 08/11/2010 7:45 PM |
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gosh ok... firstly, when I was 18?? i guess... the dude was 17, I met said dude and we hit it off... we txted alot (because 1 we live AGES away from each other and 2, he was touring around the country with YFC) ahem... anyways, he kinda stopped txting me back, which now I know that guys dont really think there's anything wrong with not replying... like maybe they forgot, whereas girls are like "OMGOSH HE DIDNT REPLY, SOMETHING IS WRONG!!" haha.
and he didn't reply for 6 months... (yes I know I've told this story like a thousand times )
he txts me just before we're going to the same conference thingy, and i guess it was because he'd see me there and didn't want it to be akward (which it was anyways) and a year later he was back up again... and... he did the exact same thing again... talked to me, seemed really interested... and honestly...i'm stupid and I fell for it AGAIN! GAAAH! needless to say, I moved on...
What was my point again... I think it was something to do with the fact that guys sometimes dont "get" that you freak out (well at least I did  ) about the loss of contact... haha.
But i mean, I couldn't handle this "on again, off again" thing
One thing i will say is... dont pour your heart out to every guy you're kinda interested in... I did that and got my heart smashed a few times. cuz that kinda stuff is used to build relationships, and if they're one sided, someone will get hurt, mostly the girl... ARG!
Prayer is probably the best thing to do, and ask God to guard your heart, so you dont get heartbroken, cuz it sucks big time I'm only JUST getting over a big heartbreak... It's been about a year. |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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nateynate
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| 08/24/2010 4:49 PM |
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| All i can say is that whoever you choose, will be good for you but in the end you will always wonder wat it would have been like to go with the other guy. Theres no avoiding that so i would say search deep into your heart then follow it |
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" Wake up oh my soul
wake up and praise the Lord
rise up you sleepy soul
rise up and praise the Lord"
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