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Derek
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| 11/03/2008 7:07 PM |
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so, what are everyone's opinions on kissing before marriage?
A) It's a-okay to make out in public. it doesn't matter who sees us.
B) kissing is alright as long as it's not long and drawn out
C) quick "pecks" (or whatever you call them) are the most a couple should do
D) no kissing, at all
just curious. i think i would say B or C because you can show your affection while being decent |
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^^@di$()N
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| 11/03/2008 7:21 PM |
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| D. Most definetly D. I want to save my first kiss for the wedding day, how magicial would that be? Only kissing one man and on the day you unite as one. So pure and innocent =] |
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wjr1991
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| 11/03/2008 8:38 PM |
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Personally, I lean towards D as well- I'm a fairly strong proponent of the opinion that the more you save, the more you have to give... certainly kissing is a way to show affection, but it's also almost trite- like, everybody does it right off type of thing. Honestly, I think it's time guys figured out other ways to express affection besides the sexual ones, because those are the ones that come naturally to us- and so it means more if we bother to take the time to figure out the other ways...
My opinion, have at it if you like :-) |
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Derek
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| 11/03/2008 9:29 PM |
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fair enough. both of of you have good points. i guess i hadn't thought of it that way before, will.
i forgot to say this in my origonal post, but i would never make whomever i am with do anything that makes them feel uncomfortable. if they don't want to kiss before marriage, then i would respect her wishes.
also, i plan on dating one girl: the one i will marry. so, yeah |
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smartblonde77
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| 11/03/2008 10:30 PM |
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Mine is i don't think it should be an everytime ALL the time thing! i mean i think if it been forever then like just a little one is ok! but making out in public... EWW sorry but really i don't wanna see someone make out! i think it would be nice to only kiss the guy you marry but i think it all depends on your own feelings and if you see a relationship forever with that guy/girl then ya but if its like hes cute i'm gunna kiss him cuase hes cute and everyone will be jelous! NO!!! but i think its ok to kiss before marrige!
just remeber if you kiss every guy/girl you date then its not whats the word .... SPECIAL!!!
you will always remeber your first time but don't go over board!
wow was that complicated?
Just make sure it means something and its not jsut somethin "FUN" to do....  |
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JoJo
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| 11/04/2008 2:24 AM |
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Well for me, I only want to (in a perfect situation if it works out the way Id like) only want to kiss the guy I marry, but besides that, I think C is o.k. too. I just think full fledged makeing out is just asking for trouble and putting you into a situation you might not be able to handle!
so yeah, but Id like to have only kissed my husband. I hope I can be able to tell him he's the first guy I ever kissed! |
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JoJo
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| 11/04/2008 2:27 AM |
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| I dont mind kissing the guy before I marry him, but i would have to be certian that he is a guy im wanting to marry in the future! |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
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mac
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| 11/04/2008 7:17 AM |
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| i personally lean towards C... i want to wait until i am engaged before i kiss my guy.. i mean kisses are a part of you and i don't want to have given away little parts of me to a bunch of different guys and then the guy i end up marrying gets the leftovers.. but that is just for me personally... |
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emilyjanelle
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| 11/04/2008 12:13 PM |
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i'm waiting for basically everything, guys and gals. kissing, holding hands (after a long time, probably after we're engaged), etc. quick hugs are okay (like hello and goodbye) but just to hug them for hours (okay, meaning minutes, haha) on end? that's just asking for it! and most of you would say 'oh, COME ON, no it's not!'
BUT, didn't one of the girls just post something about being in the heat of the moment? she had thought for a long time (and kudos to her) that she wouldn't kiss a guy until she's engaged or married to him (i forget which). but then her crush held her close in a dark movie theatre and she began to wonder what was going on. i've SO been there! you can think all you want, pray all you want, talk about it all you want. but when the time comes, when your boyfriend/girlfriend is holding you close and you feel so loved and cherished there in the moment, what won't you do for them? it definitely makes you question everything you've ever stood for, let me tell ya.
the Bible tells us to FLEE from temptation, not stand on the edge of the cliff, hoping we won't fall, right? no where in the Word does it state, 'this and this and this is okay, but remember! you have to stop if you want to do this!' (and i mean sex or something like that). nope, scripture clearly states to FLEE the evil desires of our youth. and what am/are i/we desiring right now?
hey, i'll be the first to admit, i want to kiss and hold hands and hug my (future) boyfriend. but will i? no, because that's a temptation for me. if any of you know any teen moms or those who're having sex outside of marriage, ask them how it started. they didn't just BAM, start doing it within a week of dating. i can almost guarantee (like, 99.9% chance) it started with too much hugging and clinging to each other, being alone too much, holding hands too much, and then kissing too much.
it's better, SO much better, to set standards now and have them clearly set and stated when you start a relationship. if kissing (etc.) is just a grey area in your life right now, make it black and white. i'm telling you, you won't regret it.
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Melodie J Wiebe
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| 11/04/2008 1:56 PM |
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You have a good question. Personally for me though, God has led me to set by standards HIGH. When a young man comes to court I want to have a totally hands off relationship (don't faint) We are told to stay away from all appearances of evil, and to flee youthful lusts, and in order to do this we need to set our standards high now when we are sane enough to think straight so that when we do enter into temptation (just one little kiss) we can step away right away knowing that this is not what we are called to "For God hath not called unto uncleanness, but unto holiness" (1Thessalonians 4:7)
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Lauren
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| 11/04/2008 3:19 PM |
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| D) , because kissing is a very intimate activity that should be saved for marriage. Any kissing can lead a couple to do more. |
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Lauren
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faythe
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| 11/04/2008 9:00 PM |
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in between c) and d) i have lately been thinking A LOT about d), its something i havent decided on really, i have really been struggling with it for a long time!! i am in a relationship right now that i have been in for around 3/4 of a year, we spent a long time with a 'hands off' policy and started with just holding hands, now the temptation to kiss is huge for me. i have already made the decision that i only want to kiss the person that i marry, i was kinda thinking that i would kiss after engagement or whatever..
i dunno what to think at all
but i am very thankful to God that my boyfriend is so respectful of all my decisions in this regard and he actually tells me not to let him kiss me b/c he isnt ready yet ( not saying he doesnt have the temptation though)
anyways let me know what you think!
hope it makes sense |
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DaughterofEve
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| 11/05/2008 10:47 AM |
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D) no kissing, at all
About three or four years ago, I made a commitment to not kiss anyone till the minister says "You may kiss the bride."
In my opinion:
Of course, most Christians talk about sexual purity before marriage, and I'm all for that. In having sex before marriage, we know that we should wait till marriage to "give" ourselves completely to our spouse. In my opinion, our mouths are very personal parts of the body as well. Later on in my life, I don't want to have to tell me spouse, "I kissed 5 guys before I met you, thinking I loved each one of them." I've heard that from other people soooo many times.
Also, how special would my husband feel when, on the wedding day, he knows that, not only did I save myself sexually for him, but he also knows that he is the ONLY ONE THAT HAS OR EVER WILL KISS ME! I know I would really appreciate it if he did that for me. |
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Purejoy
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| 11/06/2008 5:21 PM |
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| Definately D! I agree with everything Melodie said. I don't want any physical contact, other than shaking hands, till my wedding day. Even though I know it will be hard, I think it would make everything twice as special. |
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JoJo
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| 11/07/2008 1:47 AM |
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| My big thing with d is that it might be too overwhelming haveing everything on the wedding day... but i havent been there so i dont know for sure.... if that makes any sense... |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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M&M
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| 11/07/2008 1:14 PM |
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This post couldn't have come to me at a better time. I've been going steady with this guy for about a year now. We have been taking things really, really slow. I'm so glad he's in my life right now, he's just so amazing, a little miss guided but has the right intentions. I know this is probably going to sound corny but w/e. We waited about 3 months into it to start hugging, mostly because i had a bad experience when i was 7 that has led to some male trust/touch issues. The first time we ever held hands was just a few weeks ago at a Switchfoot concert with a bunch of friends and it was only like for a minuet, but after that it's become more of a regular thing when were out with friends. And lately i've been thinking about kissing a LOT, originally i wanted to save the "holding hands" thing for at least collage, but obviously it didn't happen. Which i have mixed feelings about. But i know i want to save kissing for at the LEAST collage. I just think it would be so amazing to tell my fionce that he's the only man i have, and will ever kiss. Cuz i just know that god has someone AMAZING out there for me and i know he'll love me so much and me the same. So yeah i am planning on saving my first kiss till my engagement. but man, thats going to be hard. I've had a hard first trimester of school, and my boyfriend has been there for me the WHOLE time, he's really good at making me feel safe, and loved. And somtimes i just really really want to kiss him. So i'm kinda between C and D. My worldy side says B but my godly side says defiantly D.
P.S. do u think u guys could pray for me?? U know just ask that i seek god wisdom and stay true to my commitment? It would mean a LOT to me. |
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DaughterofEve
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| 11/07/2008 9:46 PM |
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JoJo
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| 11/07/2008 10:32 PM |
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Sure!! I think we all need prayer for that, cuz even the best intentions go out the window when in certian situations  |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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sarah
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| 11/19/2008 12:38 AM |
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Girls, keep strong....
I had never had a boyfriend, and am now dating the most amazing guy imaginable...we took things VERY slow...no hugs/hands/anything until about month number 3. I am fine with hand holding and hugs, just keep them few and far between, because if not you expect them and want to step it up from there.
we kissed for the first time in August, and since then fall into the (B) range....i advise you if you do kiss, keep at to a LOW minimum on the C range. its very easy to get carried way. We have recently stepped back to the C range but it is so hard once you have it to take it away. |
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Daughter of Zion
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| 11/19/2008 3:44 PM |
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| C. I feel that little kisses are ok. I personally decided that my first kiss on the lips would be on my wedding day. So when I have a boyfriend and we get to that point where we start kissing, it will only be on the cheek. no lips. |
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