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Sophie
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| 12/24/2011 11:40 PM |
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I found something really hard but I wonder if I interpreted in wrong-guys kiss because it feels good and at the time they arent thinking about love, and the same for all physical things....can anyone clarify?
I also feel so bad about not giving gus enough respect, without even realising it...!
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Sophie
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| 12/24/2011 11:42 PM |
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It made me really sad (though I'm not and havent yet been in a relationship) that guys dont feel love during physical acts such as kissing, they do it to feel good...does that mean they dont think about love at all during kissing etc?
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clare
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| 01/10/2012 10:17 PM |
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| It depends on the relationship. Say a guy and girl meet and the same night kiss, most likely she'll feel more attached to him then he will her. But in a serious relationship hell feel love in a kiss. My husband and I kissed before we were married and there were times when it was an expression and feeling of love Aaand other times it was merely a see you later kiss. |
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curiousCountryGirl
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| 01/24/2012 1:27 AM |
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| I had no IDEA that messin' with my guy friends could hurt them like that!!! They want you to think that they're indistuctible, well they did have me goin' for a bit there. |
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heather_renee88
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| 02/09/2012 3:29 PM |
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I agree. I typically don't wear low cut shirts, etc. But I started too in middle school because I was hanging out with girls that told me I needed to wear that kind of clothes to get attention from the guy I liked. Well I did and I wasn't very comfortable in the clothes (but then again that might just be me) so I stopped. Well high school kind of magnified it with the more lax dress code and I was quickly surrounded by low cut shirts and micro miniskirts.
But a few things happened to encourage me to consider what I'm wearing. Before reading FYWO I had one of my close guy friends thank me for not wearing the low cuts shirts, etc because it was a huge issue and he said I still looked good anyway. I also read FYWO and I mean yeah I knew the way I dressed was an issue, but MAN! did it open my eyes! I also read a book by Alex and Brett Harris called The Rebelution where they talked about a modesty survey they put together. (just google "the modesty survey" and it'll be the first thing that pops up) and read the results. It went through lots of things that would appear in an everyday wardrobe of a girl and asked if they would tempt the guys. That was a huge eye opener too! Finally I started going out with my current boyfriend. I realized that he told me I was beautiful and looked good no matter what I was wearing. I could've been in jeans and a nicer t-shirt with a simple pattern on it, like butterflies or something, and he STILL tells me I look beautiful. I realized that by dressing that way I was not only attracting the wrong attention from guys, but I didn't have to dress like that to get attention. Yes I agree it feels GREAT to be the object getting whistled at. But keep in mind that they most likely just think you're hot. Modesty will give you a guy who will call you BEAUTIFUL. Even in sweatpants. 
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purplebelle
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| 02/22/2012 6:33 PM |
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I started the book this morning, and finished it a couple of hours ago. It was SO good! There was nothing that was too surprising, after all I am the type of girl that has a BUNCH of guy friends, being raised with three brothers can have that affect.
The respect thing kind of surprised me a bit though, just because I didn't realize it was THAT oppressing of a thing to a guy. But the thing that I did LOVE was the chapter of modesty!! I am one that has always been taught to dress modestly, becuase I am a Christian and that is the right thing to do. The older I got, the harder it was to find clothes and such that were appropriate, but it never made me want to wear the clothes that I saw others wearing.. But I know exactly how guys are when it comes to girls and dress attire. After seeing things that happen when a girl walks by when I am with my guy friends, and also some with my brothers. It absolutely DISCUSSED me that a girl could not see that that was hurting the guy. After reading the book it helped me to realize that maybe the girl didn't realize it. But that has been and probably always will be my biggest pet peev... girls need to be modest! My boyfriend from day one said that is what he loves about me, I am a bit different then all the rest in that aspect, and to me that is something that I charish. And I hope that all girls get a chance to read this AMAZING book!! |
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God's Gr8
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| 04/11/2012 4:44 AM |
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I really loved the book!! Um I think that I would have to agree with the fact that the hardest thing to hear was definitely the whole respect thing...I'm really sarcastic, and I didn't realize how much it hurts guys!!! 
It was a real eye-opener for me, as well, as to how guys think, and how much how you dress can effect them for a really long time...I didn't realize the full extent of our 'power' over them.
All in all, a great book, and I'm really glad I took the time to read it...it's changed how I think and act around my guy friends.  |
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