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DaughterofEve
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| 10/04/2008 9:14 PM |
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I've always heard about girls talking about how they need to tell "the guy" that they like him.
I don't know about you, but I don't like the whole telling a guy you like him thing (either verbally or by note). If anything, I think me liking him should be seen by the way I act around him. Being nice, liking to talk to him, etc.....
If anything, I think they guy should tell the girl he likes her.
Now, I've heard people say that girls have equal rights, and that they shouldn't have to wait for the guy to make the "first move."
I do believe that girls have equal rights, but I also believe that the guy should be the instigator in a relationship. Like, I won't go ask the guy out. I want him to ask me out. Or, if the guy I'm dating says "I love you," (and I love him) then I'll say it. I won't say it first. I think that that's the guy's job to do first.
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Nikkinikki
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| 10/05/2008 9:07 PM |
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I agree, You pretty much said it all.
It's not that it's his responsibility, it's just that in a way it's a Tradition that we've followed profusely.
refering to the bible pretty much everything refers to man. Man is the beginning of it all we as women are companions, but just as important as men, it's just that they have been given a different role in a family than women. I mean if it wasn't for us they wouldn't be here! hehe
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emilyjanelle
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| 10/06/2008 9:08 AM |
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yeaah, i agree with both of you! i totally believe that men should be the instigators in a relationship. even if i really, really, really like a guy and am getting very impatient, i'm still gonna wait 'til he makes a move! even if i think he probably likes me back, what if he doesn't? how stupid would i look by telling him and then he's totally in the dark?
yes, young men, i know you're all gonna read this and say 'but it's hard for us, TOO! WAAAH!' hey, you're the MEN! step up! you were created FIRST, you were set to be the HEAD of the family, so YOU'LL tell me when you like me.
why on earth do we think it's tradition that the man asks the woman to marry him? because that's the way it's supposed to be!
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Nikkinikki
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| 10/06/2008 7:43 PM |
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emilyjanelle by the way i really love your quote at the bottom of your comment ever since i read it, i've been living my life like that hey!
Boys, you're not ready to ask someone because you need to grow more in God.
Only Men have the courage and strength in God!!! (not undermining you boys, guys, or whatever you want to be called) But God has called MEN to do his jobs.
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wjr1991
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| 10/06/2008 10:14 PM |
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Nice point Nikki- you're totally right, boys aren't ready to ask girls out- and girls aren't ready to be asked out. I've said before, and I'll say it again that there's no right age for dating- it's maturity... once you've grown up, and are ready to marry.
Although, you don't way what men have the courage and strength in God to do- might I put my own words in there? It seems to me that only men have the courage and strength to hold a relationship like that together.
DaughterofEve, I think many guys would agree with you on who asks who- I personally would be repelled from a girl who was so forward as to ask me out (granted, I'd not be so opposed to such at very limited times- like Sadie Hawkins Dances, since it is more tradition, and those can be fun to have a break in once in a blue moon...)
My thought on your opinion of how women should express affection is this: I am almost completely illiterate in body language, or social language. I would never gather "I like you" out of "Being nice, liking to talk to him, etc..."- I might gather that they enjoy being around me, but that's it. So it's like speaking "I love you" to a deaf person. On the other direction, guys often do express love through non-verbal means... like flowers and such... what I read in what you wrote is that girls can say "I love you" first, as long as it's non-verbal... and only should say it verbally after the guy... which seems like disguise and promotion of flirting (in the serious way- like, flirting with intent of having a relationship)...
So yeah, my 2/100ths of a dollar :-) |
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DaughterofEve
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| 10/06/2008 10:46 PM |
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Posted By wjr1991 on 10/06/2008 10:14 PM
Nice point Nikki- you're totally right, boys aren't ready to ask girls out- and girls aren't ready to be asked out. I've said before, and I'll say it again that there's no right age for dating- it's maturity... once you've grown up, and are ready to marry.
Although, you don't way what men have the courage and strength in God to do- might I put my own words in there? It seems to me that only men have the courage and strength to hold a relationship like that together.
DaughterofEve, I think many guys would agree with you on who asks who- I personally would be repelled from a girl who was so forward as to ask me out (granted, I'd not be so opposed to such at very limited times- like Sadie Hawkins Dances, since it is more tradition, and those can be fun to have a break in once in a blue moon...)
My thought on your opinion of how women should express affection is this: I am almost completely illiterate in body language, or social language. I would never gather "I like you" out of "Being nice, liking to talk to him, etc..."- I might gather that they enjoy being around me, but that's it. So it's like speaking "I love you" to a deaf person. On the other direction, guys often do express love through non-verbal means... like flowers and such... what I read in what you wrote is that girls can say "I love you" first, as long as it's non-verbal... and only should say it verbally after the guy... which seems like disguise and promotion of flirting (in the serious way- like, flirting with intent of having a relationship)...
So yeah, my 2/100ths of a dollar :-)
Well, I guess you also have to have a plan of how to let a guy like you know (so that you get it)  .
I'm like that a little too. I probably wouldn't get it until he gives me flowers.  |
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**Jes :-)
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| 11/03/2008 11:45 AM |
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I think you're completely right! cuz who do you want to be the leader in your marriage. if you now go up to him asking him out then you're already taking leader ship. but i no how you feel!
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JoJo
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| 11/04/2008 2:45 AM |
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I know what its like wanting so badly to let a guy know, but ive learnt from experience that its usually better if they say something first.
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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emilyjanelle
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| 11/04/2008 12:23 PM |
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gooooood point, hilda!
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**Jes :-)
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| 11/05/2008 1:01 PM |
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hey whoever came up with that saying "a women's heart should be so lost in God that the Guy has to search Him in order to find her" that's awesome! I love that.
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Daughter of Zion
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| 11/19/2008 3:55 PM |
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| Jes I love your little footnote or whatever it's called here. Where did you find that? |
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courtney
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| 11/22/2008 11:49 PM |
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| Yeah I agree with you!! I Think the guy should make the first move 2!! i mean its not like your gonna ask him 2 marry you!! I mean he needs to learn how to make the first moves and guys like when they have to work for a girl! |
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Mike
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| 11/24/2008 8:09 PM |
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This is a pretty good video, and I agree with it. He talks about how guys need "the thrill of the chase" and how girls shouldn't go to the guy, the guy should go towards them. This not only applies to what he's referring to in the video, modesty, but also applies in actual dating. Guys need to have the challenge of asking a girl out or asking if she likes him, and if it's not there then they're probably less likely to stay interested in the long run.
That said though, guys don't always pick up on the subtle clues that DaughterOfEve suggested. I'm hardly saying that guys are stupid or dumb, but not all guys are as well in tune with subtle clues as girls are. It's easier to just not try to send signals (which can get mixed along the way anyhow) but instead just be friendly and wait for him. Best friends make great people to date. But don't wait forever--he may just not be interested in anything beyond good friends.
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**Jes :-)
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| 11/26/2008 2:29 PM |
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i read it on some of the forums for young women only. i love that saying who ever came up with that. It's GREAT
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misty_me447
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| 11/30/2008 3:58 PM |
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I like the traditional way of doing things. I think we need more gentlemen out there!  P *Sigh* I would love to find a guy who would be the initiator of the relationship. |
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ocsupertones95
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| 02/04/2009 9:00 PM |
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| As a guy I want nothing less then to be running away from a girl who's dropping hints every where that she likes me. (yes that includes a punch in the eye) I know that it's very important to me to have the lead role in almost any boy girl relationship. I think that it makes the boy/man feel more respected... idk that's just the opinion of a "boy" |
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wjr1991
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| 02/24/2009 5:25 PM |
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| @ocsupertones95: Tucker... I think you mean there's nothing you want more than to run away from a girl who's dropping those hints. |
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Most of the nearly two billion children in the developing world have inadequate access to dinosaurs. Some receive no paleontology training at all. One in three has never even seen a dinosaur in person.
OVPC is an organization providing a means to an end - an end that sees children in even the most remote regions of the globe being given the motivation and adrenaline to tap into their own potential, identify with the survival needs of a global dinosaur-driven culture, and to contribute to a paleontological world community.
Support the cause at velociraptorz.org |
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mb
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| 02/27/2009 9:37 PM |
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| it drives me crazy when i try to find out if a girl likes me......it takes me a little bit to get up the guts to even consider telling her how i feel.........that doesnt count finding the right moment either........ yeah the men should step up though......except my spanish teacher.....she apparently asked her husband.....hey is this going anywhere.....if not im going to leave...........shes funny though.....she hates romantic things...... |
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Bekah
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| 04/26/2009 2:41 PM |
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| Any guys out there...if you are on the quiet side, and you like a girl, what are you most likely going to do to show her that (not tell her)? I'm just curious, because I've liked this guy for a looooong time and I have no clue whether he likes me or not, but I don't want to just ask him out, because that would make me fall over dead on the spot. Help? |
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Locke
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| 04/26/2009 10:41 PM |
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| For me - I'll be extremely nice. I'll talk to her more and show her more attention than I might otherwise. I'll learn as much about her as I can. And if she's involved in something - a play, drama, show, what have you – I'll go watch to support her. |
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