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clare
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| 12/06/2011 9:49 PM |
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| I so want to say "its about time you got that David, I been telling you that for years" but I'll be nice and not say it...... |
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dqchristian
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| 12/06/2011 9:55 PM |
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| ha well I'm just glad I learned it. it's been a real eye opener |
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"Life is not a matter of holding good cards, it's playing a poor hand well."
Let’s stop trying to FIND the right match and instead BE the right match. |
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Lucky Albatross
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| 12/07/2011 2:07 AM |
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the ultimate goal of dating is to someday get married. while having guy/girl friends is very good, you can learn what type of person you are attracted to, you don't have to date.
I'm gonna disagree in part with you on that one Clare. Sure, marriage is the eventual goal of putting yourself out there and dating in your adult years, but dating as a teenager serves a purpose as well. Psychologically speaking, dating as a teenager teaches you how to be in a relationship. Nobody knows what's expected or what it's going to be like the first time, so dating serves as 'practice' for the real thing. (That's sounds really horrible how it's written, but I trust you'll know what I mean!  )
To the OP's question, I'd say 16 is a reasonable age to start dating. Now that I've said that, I'm sure I'm gonna be blessed with a girl when I'm older just so I can eat my words! Ha ha! |
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One step at time,
I trust these feet of mine,
To carry me on to where I belong.
Mike Zito |
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Lin
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| 12/07/2011 2:17 PM |
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Well, it' s been awhile, but I us to think that dating was no big deal and didn't really matter how many people you dated, because you are seeing and being in different relationships and learning on the way. After going through an experience with a guy and it's been two months now that we've been apart...I've come to realize that it really should be taken seriously and with the idea of marriage in the future. Because you give pieces of your heart to that one person with just the time you are with them ( even if your not physical) and you go through heart breaks and I just dont see the point in getting attached to a person ( just to have practice) and knowing that you will break up. For me, it had to take somthing drastic to open my eyes and just have a better understaning of the dating world. Thats just my opinion  |
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clare
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| 01/10/2012 10:37 PM |
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Well I used to think like that Levi, but my married genres are strongly protesting. I guess it depends on the situation.take this for example....
"sue" is dating "Al". Now sue is 19 and wants to go to college and become a teacher, marry someday but not quite yet. Al had never kept more than a seasonal job, or lived somewhere for more than a year and A real ladies man who is everything but a keeper and would never be able to be anything but a drifter. Sue is madly in love with Al, she can't even talk to her best friend from out of t town because she its plastered to Al. The relationship won't last.either way its headed for disaster and she'll end up broken hearted and worse off.
Now, what its the point of a relationship like that? Sue is so madly in love but if she married him it wouldn't last even a year. So why keep dating?? they can't move forward, its either date forever or break up! |
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Lucky Albatross
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| 01/16/2012 3:59 AM |
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First off, I would hope 'Sue's' friends and family would have the common sense God gave a goose and try and talk her out of marrying this particular beau if it got that far. Either way, it's the old cliche, 'Live and Learn'.
The point is to make the mistake of dating 'Al' so you'll know what 'Mr. Right' looks like when they come along. I've seen too many of my friends marry their own 'Als' and... whatever the female version of 'Al' would be right out of high school without any foresight and hardly any dating or courtship. I'd say upwards of 90% are divorced now.
You date to weed out the 'Als' essentially. One way or another. Hopefully, that helps to avoid the situation many of my friends and classmates put themselves into. |
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One step at time,
I trust these feet of mine,
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Mike Zito |
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clare
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| 01/17/2012 12:50 AM |
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| Well her family used to be sensible....I guess live and learn but she's being stupid. Ooh well if she comes running to me I'll give her her own medicine I'mto mad at her to care |
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curiousCountryGirl
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| 01/24/2012 1:58 AM |
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I personally think 16 is a good age to start group dating, 18 be4 you go on a REAL dinner date. But that is just me.
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~If your lost & looking for a saviour,
all you gotta do is turn around.~
~I can't Remember!~
~You know those times when it feels like theres a sign
there on your back,
says I don't mind if ya kick me seems like everybody
does~
~Rodney Atkins~ |
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curiousCountryGirl
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| 01/24/2012 1:58 AM |
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I personally think 16 is a good age to start group dating, 18 be4 you go on a REAL dinner date. But that is just me.
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~If your lost & looking for a saviour,
all you gotta do is turn around.~
~I can't Remember!~
~You know those times when it feels like theres a sign
there on your back,
says I don't mind if ya kick me seems like everybody
does~
~Rodney Atkins~ |
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JoJo
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| 02/01/2012 4:54 PM |
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| idk, lol. I was talking to a youth girl whos a good deal younger than me, she's 17, and she's now begun to realise that she feels too young to date, cuz she hasn't figured out completely, what the point of dating is... I was so proud of her lol (sorry, youth leader genes kicking in haha) and she is like "now that I know AMAZING Godly young men, I'm not going back to non christian guys..." |
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Turn up the music
Turn it up loud
Take a few chances
Let it all out
'Cause you won't regret it
Lookin' back from where you have been
'Cause it's not who you knew
And it's not what you did
It's how you live
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God Bless!
Mwah XOXO
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Nicole
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| 02/26/2012 1:36 AM |
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Well perhaps to revise my opinion on the appropriate age of dating....
If I had a daughter, and I had to set the age appropriate line for her to date, it would be either be 18 or when she shows me she's mature enough, whichever comes first. I do know she's not dating until her junior year in high school at least. When it comes to dating, it doesn't hurt to be friends at first, I think. |
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whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it's time to pause and reflect -Mark Twain |
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artist_for_christ
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| 02/27/2012 10:40 AM |
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I think it's something you need to pray and talk with your parents. Since everyone has different opinions, it is important for you to know what your parents feel and if God says that you should date the person you are interested in.
I personally feel that you need to get to know the person well before you start dating them, whether that be at 15 or 25. I know many people who started dating the new guy/girl in church and found out while dating them that they aren't all they seemed to be and they had a lot of garbage ideas about what you do in a dating relationship and they would push their ideas into the relationship and cause boundaries to be pushed too early in the relationship.
On another note, you need to decide what qualities you are looking for in a guy/girl. I have decided what I'm looking for based off of the godly men God has put in my life such as my parents friends, my pastors, co-workers (I work at church), youth group and college group leaders. |
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~Lauren~
But whatever gain I had, I counted as loss for the sake of Christ. Indeed, I count everything as loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord. For his sake I have suffered the loss of all things and count them as rubbish, in order that I may gain Christ
Philippians 3:7-8 |
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